Question:
Well, its a long story, but just found out wife has Herpes II. So, my question is this. Can it be possible to contract this from her via a kiss? Can my 2 year old also get this from her via a kiss? This all comes as a suprise to us, but are worried that I may have it now, or my daughter. Are we at risk?

BTW, since the news, no sex of anykind has happend. Basically one semi-intimate kiss.

Thanks

Answer:
you need to first find out if possible, where she is contagious or which location she has the hsv2....genitally or orally...or both? do you know? Once you find out the precautions will be specific to the location she has it. It is also very likely you already have it as well and so you need to be tested asap via HERPES SPECIFIC BLOOD TEST which will tell you if you have the virus and are unaware you do. You dont need any symptoms present to have this blood test. So many people have this virus and because they have never had any symptoms, never had anything they might have even thought could be herpes, and has never had a partner that suspected they might have it or never had symptoms as well, people never get tested .....all the while they have herpes, and do not get visible symptoms, but can still have been spreading the virus on for years unknowingly. It is also possible to be infected and to not have transmitted it to previous partners, if you just happened to not have been shedding the virus asymptomatically. That is why one partner can have it for weeks, or months, or years, and never have a clue, get married, be with partner for additional weeks, months, years before passing it to a partner, which might then create a cause to be tested. So it is actually far more common than you think. Ask your wife if she has in fact been tested via herpes specific blood test and not just diagnosed visually, as that can often be false. If you test negatively at first, then get a second blood test in 12 weeks to find out if you have been recently infected because after 12 weeks the antibodies should be in your system by then. Yes, if she has it you are at plenty of risk to contract it from her, but first you have to identify WHERE she has it to asses the precautions accordingly. keep in mind though you could already have it as well and just not be aware you do. So find out where she has it and take it from there. Oh, and just so you know, if you or she has ever had a test for ALL STDS, you were tested for EVERYTHING EXCEPT herpes....crazy huh? for some reason that is not included and millions of people dont know this and gain a false sense of being free of all stds when in fact they could very well have herpes and not know it. Herpes is an additional test you have to ask for via blood during an ALL STDS test.

Answer:
well, she did have a test done, and has it in the genital area. It is a long story, I know she contracted it from someone else. She was diagnosed about 3 weeks ago at the hospital. Only real physical contact since then was ONE kiss. I would hate to think one kiss would give me Herpes II. Is my daughter at risk getting it as well??

Thank you very much for your response.

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how can you be sure she got it from someone else.....either way, be sure to get tested via herpes type specific blood test before having any sexual contact with her. Dont you want to know if you were the carrier of it and didnt have any idea....nothing is for certain until you get tested. Also, get tested also to know if you already have it because then things will be a lot different without trying not to get it, if you already have it and are unaware you do. If she has it genitally, and you dont already know if you have it or not, then you could get it from having unprotected oral sex with her....if you go down on her, even if she doesnt have any symptoms visible, then you have a chance you could get it if she happens to be shedding the virus, asymptomatically (when the virus is present on the skin, but shows no visible symptoms) also, if you have sex with her with or without a condom, you are at risk to contract it. Using condoms can help lessen the risk, but not if the condom doesnt cover the area on her that is infected. So, if her outbreaks or shedding of the virus happens to occur in a region other than where a condom on you will touch, then any exposed skin other than the condom for you will be at risk of getting it there. However, Im not sure how long youve been together but there is a really good choice you either already have it, or gave it to her and had no idea you were even carrying the virus for years. Either way, get tested via herpes specific blood test whether or not you think you have it because more times than not people are shocked to find out they also have herpes as well, because they have never had symptoms....but it is more common than you probably think to contract this virus at some time, never see any symptoms...so you never have a reason to suspect it is possible, and then find out you actually do have the virus and have had it for a while. Also, see if your wife can find out if during her pregnancy if she was tested for herpes via a blood test, because it is common practice in many states to administer a blood test for stds, including the herpes virus, as having the herpes virus can significantly affect the potential for the child to get it while being delivered and for that reason they often do a blood test sometimes....maybe she had one...worth checking out. Oh, and as to if your daughter could get it from her, the answer is highly unlikely, as long as your wife does not touch herself down there and then touch your daughter accidently without washing her hands. As long as your wife washes her hands often there is not a big concern for your daughter to come into contact with the active virus at any time. In summer, when wearing a bathing suit, your wife should be careful when holding her, if any part if where your wife experiences outbreaks is exposed in the open. Other than that, you and your daughter dont have to worry about getting it from your wife kissing you at all because she does not have ORAL herpes, she has genital....so no worries there. Also, as far as your wife giving you oral sex.....hold off until you have in fact been tested because theres a chance you have it and are not aware, in that case your wife could get it orally from giving you oral sex if you do have it and are unaware.....in which case could then lead to her having it orally and spreading it orally (kissing , etc) to you or your daughter....but that is a long shot....but still possible in certain cases so get tested soon so you know what you're dealing with. If your blood test comes back negative, abstain from vaginal contact with your wife, and get retested in 12 weeks, and if by then you are still negative, then it is safe to say you dont have the virus yet, in that case, then it is fine for your wife to perform oral sex on you with no risk to you of getting the virus...and in the future proceed with caution and just try to be careful and hope for the best...and if you have it, the same precautions still aplly in terms of unprotected oral sex being risky and able to give it to either one of you orally if one of you is shedding the virus without symptoms. Some doctors also recommend using condoms, even if both people are infected, as a way to limit additioal outbreaks that may be passed back and forth at times. hope this helps clarify and good luck with the testing.

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wow,, thanks for putting the time in writing that. That helped out alot. One of the things I failed to mention, my wife and I have been in the process of getting a divorce. Long story short, my wife decided to cheat on me about 2 months ago. The person she did that with would be a candidate to have a plethra of things. My wife has changed over the years for the bad, thats a whole other story. Needless to say, we are getting a divorce still. I have not had sex with her of any kind in about 4 months. One kiss the other night was about it. ( it was our 13th anniversary, one last one i guess). So, yes I may have it, yes I may gave it to her, but given the situation, i would think its highly likely she got it from that nasty Fuker. I was in a bad place already, then she found out 2 weeks after she told me she cheated that she had the virus. Not a fun place around here by any means. Thanks again for the help!!