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I'm genuinely happy to read the stories of people here who actually manage to find someone. It means that it can happen.

Unfortunately, as the song says, "but not for me". I do know that people have suggested the dating sites and I have tried those. There is no need to go through "the talk" since everyone is in the same boat. There is only one problem.

No one, and I do mean NO ONE, answers. This isn't exclusive with me by any means and it isn't limited to older males. It is just too much to take on top of the HSV to realize that people no longer have the common courtesy to simply say "thanks, but you aren't my type". Honesty is appreciated, poor manners are not.

Perhaps this LTR thing isn't what it's cracked up to be anyway. I had always wanted to have kids but at 55 thats a bit far-fetched now. After catching HSV 27 days after marrying my ex-wife I can be forgiven for wondering that.

I think I'm ranting more because I'm totally out of ideas than anything else. Me female friends, and I DO have female friends, always emphasize being positive. I try, but you can understand how difficult that is when one woman, who earlier said we had a lot in common and she wanted to hear from me, emails back to a message that she was out of touch because she was currently dating and wanted to see how it worked out. That was someone I emailed from a free site so I at least got my money's worth.

I am open to ideas, suggestions, WHATEVER, because nothing I try works. I did meet one woman in Germany who didn't mind my age (55), saw past my height (5'3) but couldn;t get past the HSV. And so it goes.

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Ouchies, seems like a lot of these rough. And trust me and others here that it's rough for all of us.

I understand completely when you feel that nobody will accept the idea of one carrying HSV of any type.

It's made it completely difficult for me to continue dating after being out of a relationship. Which I may add, I'm fresh out of 6 month relationship which felt like I spent 5 years with this person. So i understand the wanting to meet people. That anticipation kills us all. But in due time, you'll meet somebody mature enough to see pass HSV. I think we all will.

Chin up

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dont give up matey - losers give up, and you def not one of those.....

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The honest truth is that sometimes relationships happen when you least expect them to....and sometimes they simply never happen at all.

I'm not minded to give up easily but nothing I try works. The social aspect of it all is especially bad. I was diagnosed with epilepsy at the age of 13 so my formative years were shot all to hell. It is completely controlled now, thank God, but it did it's damage.

It might just be that its wisest to take a breather for awhile and simply not concern myself about it. I just am weary of it all.

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sometimes when you quit looking the world brings you what you were looking for all along.

it happened to me.

i gave up on love and quit putting time into it and it snuck up on me when i wasn't even looking. it's been more than 2 years now and i couldn't be happier.

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sometimes when you quit looking the world brings you what you were looking for all along.

it happened to me.

i gave up on love and quit putting time into it and it snuck up on me when i wasn't even looking. it's been more than 2 years now and i couldn't be happier. Like I said earlier, I'm happy to hear that it happens for some people. Right now it's looking pretty dismal for me. The only reaction that i've received from any h dating site so far was "thanks for your message". While nice, that hardly does anything for me.

While I think I'd make a good husband and father, no one else seems to agree so it seems pointless to bash my head against a wall. Durocher had a point.

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I didn't meet my guy on an online site and I don't feel comfortable meeting people that way.

There is a lot to be said for doing what you enjoy and sometimes you will meet the perfect person that way. So if you have a beloved hobby or interest fill your time up doing it because not only will it feed your natural interest but it will show up in your demeanor and that will attract people who share your interest and will see your inner beauty that is magnified by you being yourself. Does this make sense? In other words when you do what you enjoy it will show on your face and in your enthusiasm and that is very attractive.

Half the battle is natural attraction and the other half is truly enjoying spending time together.

best wishes.

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I didn't meet my guy on an online site and I don't feel comfortable meeting people that way.

There is a lot to be said for doing what you enjoy and sometimes you will meet the perfect person that way. So if you have a beloved hobby or interest fill your time up doing it because not only will it feed your natural interest but it will show up in your demeanor and that will attract people who share your interest and will see your inner beauty that is magnified by you being yourself. Does this make sense? In other words when you do what you enjoy it will show on your face and in your enthusiasm and that is very attractive.

Half the battle is natural attraction and the other half is truly enjoying spending time together.

best wishes. The problem I have is that I work late three nights a week and there is NO time to socialize whatsoever. I'm not really a social animal to begin with in any case.

I am afraid I've long since lost patience with wishing and hoping. I don't want to appear rude. I would prefer something concrete and direct. Of course, this also gives the impression of being pushy I suppose but at 55 I'm simply too old to sit and wait.

That was the reason I tried going online. Another was that I felt that it increased the chances of meeting someone and relived social stigma from having an std. I obviously misread the situation because the women who ignored me before herpes are ignoring me now.

It isn't a matter of my doing something wrong, or a poor approach, as it is having the cards stacked against me. If anything, I've gotten more hassles from being short than I ever have from contracting herpes. I find that disturbing.

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I am sorry to hear you are so down but I really believe that if you just stop trying so hard to find someone, that eventually someone will come into your life. I hope you do find someone in the future, but for now just try to focus on doing things that make you happy and focus on those things for a while. Hobbies are great things to help keep you feeling satisfied in life on other levels and it is true that when you are enjoying life and involved in something you are passionate about there is more room to meet others who share your love of it. Also, there are millions of short people out in the world so dont let it get you feeling upset and as for the people who didnt give you the time of day before who needs them anyway? Would you even want to be with anyone who could make you feel like less of a person for not fitting "their" specific ideals? You seem like a very nice guy and I believe that if you just have faith, try and stay positive as much as possible, and engage yourself in things you enjoy that you will find happiness ultimately....with a partner or not in the future. Do you have any close friends or family members you see or get along with well? sometimes even one good friend or family member can be very supportive and help take your mind off of the things that get you down. I hope things work out for you and hope fate brings you love in the future. Remember, that you are a wonderful and worthy person of feeling good about yourself, about holding a unique presence in this world, and for all and everything you have contributed to this earth this far in your life. Never let the coldness or fears from others in the world get you down. You are a good person and you deserve to find someone and if you believe in yourself and work on your self esteem then it will happen when the time is right....and you are only as old as you want to think you are. Nothing is impossible so never begin to doubt things......the possibilities in life are endless if you stay open to them. Good luck. Glad to have you on this forum :)