Question:
I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months now, I was diagnosed with genital herpes about 2 weeks ago. I believe I got the virus from his cold sore and oral/genital contact.

My question: I told him it was his choice whether he wanted to continue having unprotected sex since I was diagnosed. He chose to continue, however I'm now wondering if it should be his choice. The idea of hurting him kills me, we're very committed, moving in together soon and basically living together now, but I don't know if it's a forever partnership. Should I allow him to take the risk, since it is his body and his future and he understands we may not be "rest-of-our-lives" material. Or should I say no for his sake and the guilt of putting him through this I currently feel?

Sorry for the novel, any advice is appreciated. Thanks.

Answer:
I can understand how you feel, i think the best thing you could do is print off as many facts about this virus you can, explain how you feel about having this virus, explain to him how hard people find it when meeting someone new and having to "have the talk".
I caught it the same way you did, and it had to be my husbands choice, i gave him all the facts, he came to his own decision, i think he has to make his own mind up when given all the facts.
Good Luck

Answer:
I don't understand the situation.

You got genital HSV from his oral HSV, and now you are worried that you will give him back his HSV on his genitals?

Have you two been tested?

Does he feel guilty of giving you HSV?

Answer:
Yes that is the correct situation.

I have been tested, he has not.

He feels very guilty, but I don't want him to since he had no idea he would infect me, or any intention whatsoever of hurting me.

Answer:
Hes made his choice, if he thort you wasnt forever material i doubt he would go in bare back....

Answer:
I don't know what answer you are wanting to your question?

This is what I heard from you:

You told your guy that you are hsv positive.
He took the time to listen to what you had to say.
He still wants to have unprotected sex with you.
You've been tested and he has not.

You should respect his right to choose unless you don't want to continue the sexual relationship for your own reasons and that is a choice you have a right to make as well.

He may already be hsv positive orally and genitally.

Answer:
Thanks for the input everyone.... I'm starting to deal with the choice he made without feeling guilty.

Next dilemma is the immense swelling, rawness of skin, and pain I get after intercourse. Any comments?

Answer:
lube lube lube!!