Question:
I met a guy, and well we kinda had just started hanging out and I noticed he had some pills on his dresser. He had three bottles of the same thing, so it made me curious. I had heard the name before it was aciclovyr... ( c/s) I had had a rash on my neck about 6 months back and my docter thought it was chicken pox and he put me on it to be safe...

So I see these pills and I know what they are, I looked it up online just to be sure and I told him I knew what they were...And I asked him about it. I'm a blunt person and he admitted it to me... And explained he and his ex had had sex and he thought maybe it was from the rough sex but he got tested and it came back positive. She says she didn't give it to him and so ya he is just starting to cope with it. It's all new to him.

Well I told him it didn't matter to me. That he is not herpes he is who he is and that it is just an annoyance . I don't judge him because he can't help what has happened to him. I'm sure it happens to the best of us. my sisters best friend has had it for a long time, she has only had one breakout and never given it to anyone... she's fine with it... Im also very educated on stds i read up on alot of things due to boredom... i feel it is good to be educated on everyday life...

Well I am concerned a little though. I don't think I have it. I have never really been tested for it and I did once about 6 years ago have something that would be like a breakout. But I thought it was an allergy. I had had sex with someone who used nair... and the next day I broke out... I was only 16 though and scared so i didnt get tested and it went away in about a week. I have never had another one and so I don't think i have it...

But it kinda scares me if he has it.and i don't.. He's a really cool guy, and sex to me is a big part of my life... as appartently was to him before hand...
he thinks it's beautiful i don't judge him.. Im the first girl he's had to tell and for me to be this ok with it , is that a good thing..?? in him learning to accept what he has.

i mean as much as it scares me it's something i could live with... i am a rather healthy person anyway... i dont go to the docter as much as i should but i never(knock on wood) get sick really either...

is sex with a condom making sure he isnt having a break out safe?? I also hate giving oral with a condom... i have never really been to worried about stds and never made an issue about them and I have been lucky in the past... should I be that way now... i dont really know what to think about this whole situation...

Answer:
youve done the best thing by getting yourself clued up about it.

its an annoyance, and my girlfried (who does not have HSV) carry on as normal with me being extra vigilant, ive not had a break out since ive been with her and its seems she has not picked up the virus.

end of the day tho, nothing is 100%, theres always a risk.

i hope u can find away around it..

good for you for getting informed rather then jumping to conclusions about this person.

but to be honest, if u think uve had a break out before sound to me like u already have it.

id go get tested.