Question:
I just found out I have HSV-1 genitally. My boyfriend has not got tested yet since I found out. He was tested months ago just before we started dating and it was Negative (it was a blood test but i dont know if it was IgG or IgM or how accurate or if they tested for both 1 and 2) but anyway, he is sure he was negative before me. A month after having sex (oral included) with me for the first time he got a cold sore around his mouth. He didnt get tested then because he didnt know it was the same thing. I never had an outbreak until just 2 weeks ago. now i am positive for HSV-1 after having a genital outbreak.
I have only slept with 2 people before him. one was my first boyfriend i dated for 7 years, we lost our virginity together so my current boyfriend and i assume it wasnt from him. the 2nd was a drunk mistake with a man who is know for sleeping around (who is someone that my bf absolutly hates and cant understand why i slept with him and hates the fact that i did and cant understand why I would put myself in the situation where I would surely catch something and then not ever get tested for it. etc.) So my boyfriend assumes it was him that gave it to me. now how do i deal with living with herpes for the rest of my life when every time it comes up in our relationship it will always remind us of that one time i slept with that one person? How can I bring up other possibilities of where it came from without sounding like I'm blaming my boyfriend? I trust him completely I know he doesn't cheat on me, but how can I ask him exactly what blood test he had done without accusing him? I know if i asked him that he would counter with "why didnt you get tested after sleeping with such a dirty nasty person"

Answer:
your positive he had a HERPES test before you? and not just the standard std test?

you can have alot of neg's with blood test, if you wait to long inbetween testing after a outbreak (me it took 8 months and 4 test before i got a postitive result if i trusted my first test, well id be dumb)

so now- ""A month after having sex (oral included) with me for the first time he got a cold sore around his mouth. He didnt get tested then because he didnt know it was the same thing. "" makes me think that he has had cold sores before, but didnt know they are herpes (alot of people think that way to)

you should DEF get him tested asap, and find out if he has ever had a coldsore before this one.