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I was recently diagnosed and I vowed that I would never be intimate with another guy unless I told him about having HSV. I feel as though its only fair and being honest is the right thing to do. With that said, a guy I have been close friends with for 7yrs (we dated for a brief moment in 2002, and hadnt slept together since 2004 we became the best of friends and maintain a close friendship), actually knows I have HSV and is fine with it. I opened up to him one day being that we are so close, and guess what he said when I told him "Oh, thats like catching a cold nowadays, anyway, you'll be alright" and moved on to another conversation. I was blown away!!! I felt funny after I told him, I still didnt want to be intimate, I was still dealing with my own issues and having HSV! This past weekend, we talked and we are basically seeing how things go and taking one day at a time in working on possibly a relationship. And finally IT happened..... we had sex for the time this past weekend, and he didnt hesitate or think twice!!!! We were careful and all went well.

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Kudos for being honest and upfront. That is the best way to handle this. Hopefully someday, I will be cheering for sex again too!

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i find that since ive had the little monsters down there, when i have sex with my GF i find it so much more sensual - probs cus i know how lucky i am.

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I've been flying solo for the past 9 months....before,pleasureing a woman ment everything to me....but with confermation of my condition....I have the fear of trasmitting it.Im quite frustrated not being able to find any release other than self manipulation.It cost me my last marrage,If any one knows of dating sites in Tulsa,ok please let me know.

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I've been flying solo for the past 9 months....before,pleasureing a woman ment everything to me....but with confermation of my condition....I have the fear of trasmitting it.Im quite frustrated not being able to find any release other than self manipulation.It cost me my last marrage,If any one knows of dating sites in Tulsa,ok please let me know.
Yo A-N-T...

If you look at women as a release recepticle herpes may not have been the only thing that cost you your marriage.
This may be a fine time to learn to cultivate deeper relationships. Maybe with yourself for starters. I think you'd be surprised at how much richer life (and sex) can be when you have a meaningful relationship Before you are intimate with someone.
Maybe I misread your post?

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Yo A-N-T...

If you look at women as a release recepticle herpes may not have been the only thing that cost you your marriage.
This may be a fine time to learn to cultivate deeper relationships. Maybe with yourself for starters. I think you'd be surprised at how much richer life (and sex) can be when you have a meaningful relationship Before you are intimate with someone.
Maybe I misread your post? I may not have realyed my point correctly.I have in the past enjoyed sex very much,to bring a woman to the point of exstacy when time mattered not,where we were didn't matter,not a care in the world....for that moment in time which only two people can share.I don't look for a woman as a release for me....but her.Does this make me strang,wrong or disfunctinal?
Now unless I can find a willing woman in the same....condition as my self....I shall look back on how I was and dwell on where I've been.

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I'm sure you'll find a companion...maybe when you least expect it?
Good luck to you!

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I don't look for a woman as a release for me....but her.
lol - think we got a gigolo in the house!!! :twisted:

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Gutted
Your posts really do put a smile on my face!!