Question:
I am in total shock and have not stoped crying since this morning. I went to the hospital last night because of a rash and found out at 5 am this morning that I had herpes. I am on Acyclovir which makes me sick to my stomach and I am also on Hydrocodone for the pain. I do not know how in the world I got this, the DR said I could be a carrier. My boyfriend went with me to the hospital and so far he is handling this ok. He says he still loves me and is very supportive. He has no signs of having this virus. I just do not know how to feel about this, all I do is cry. I have so many worries, ex: can he handle going threw this with me? Does this mean we have to use condoms all the time now? I want to protect him. Can the DR be wrong? Is there a test that I can take? How can I go potty and it not hurt so much! I have so many mixed feelings, I am going threw so many emotions! I am so confused!! I feel like my life has come to a halt.

Answer:
hi zap,

sorry to see you here. i was diagnosed over a year ago and i was as shocked/worried/in pain as you are. i only have two pieces of advice. first of all, you have got h from someone and that very well may be your boyfriend so don't concider yourself the bad guy in all of this. second of all, try not to do anything irrasional, you may be panicking now but you're pain will subside and you'll be o.k, goodluck jay

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Visiting these forums and reading..reading ..reading.. has made be become very well informed and not feel quite so "lost".As Jay said,it will get better...it's a shock to everyone at first...we all think it can't happen to us..or just don't really think about it at all.The world we live in is really not that safe and secure...we do not have to worry or think what kind of strange bizarre dangerous viruses my lurk on distant planets...we have lots of those here...we really just have to become alot more diligent/careful in some things we do....best wishes to you

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Thank you both for the advise. I am feeling better, the pain is gone. But I still get sick from the meds i am taking. I have my good moments as well as my bad ones. Seems like I have more bad ones right now. Trying to accept this is hard, I keep thinking that maybe the DR at the hospital is wrong, but deep down I know he is not. I do have a question about the medication. Do I take them everyday for life? The DR at the hospital told me to contact my gyn and tell them about my diag. of H. My gyn has moved out of state so I am in limbo. My regular DR told me to get another gyn. So I am alil confussed about the medication. I have found that this forum is WONDERFUL, I have learned alot about this virus that I had never known before. My bf and madelove for the 1st time today since my outbreak and I have to tell you I was and still am very scared. He keep telling me over and over that he still loves me no matter what..we didn't use a condom and I am in such a panic. Can he have it and not show any signs?? I have never seen any signs with him. We both are very confussed about how I got this virus. Again thank you for responding to me. I am still so very upset, have my crying spells every once in a while, I guess i will for a while.

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You say you and your GF made love this morning,,,without a condom...during an outbreak :!: This is not a good idea. At the very least
a condom should be used...even if your BF has the virus too...you can be re-infecting each other and that can mutate the virus into a stronger strain.I'm afraid latex is and will be yours/his best friend. If you are not going to use one..make sure either is not having an ob and it has been some time since one for both. Good Luck