Question:
My wife and I have been married for 25 years and together for 26 years - appx. 2 years ago we had to stop having sex at her request because of a sore in her genital area. We both were tested, and she came back positive, however I was negative. She claims she hasn't been having an affair - should I believe her? I have been faithful! Since the outbreak died down we have had sex (w/o protection) and so far I guess I have been lucky as no infection. I feel like this is a ticking time bomb - after reading about many of the experiences I am quite fearful of contacting H. I enjoy sex, and I don't want to start using condoms. She has regular outbreaks now, every 1-3 months. Any advice is very much appreciated.

Answer:
Hi, I am so sorry to hear about your wife. I am still new at all this. I have been with my b/f for over 8 months and had my 1st ob a few weeks ago. I have no idea how I got this either. My b/f has no symptoms of having this virus. Before my b/f the last sexual partner I had was my ex husband over 2 yrs ago. The DR told me I could be a carrier and something just triggered it. Is your wife on any type of medication? If not she needs to be. I am taking Acyclovir and my ob lasted 6 days. My b/f and I are getting married and we have talked alot about the what ifs. He has expressed his concerns to me like I have to him. He doesn't want to wear a condom either and we have not used them. The key thing is to be careful. Do not makelove during an OB. To be honest with you I do not know of anyone who really can or would want too. The sores are very painful! The desision about to wear one or not is up to you and your wife. But remember if you decide not to you are playing with fire. I have heard you can have an OB and not even know it. This was my big concern with my b/f, what if he got it. I didn't want him to hold it over my head or be bitter with me, He told me that he would rather get it from someone he loved then someone he didn't love. Just because she has this terrible virus doesn't mean that she cheated on you. I have it and I was faithful to my b/f. I wish you both the best and please have her take some kind of medication for it. I heard when you are on the mediation that the OB are fewer and go away faster.