Question:
I got an initial herpes outbreak 4 weeks ago. Went to the Dr. and was treated. Problem is I have been married for 8 1/2 years to the same person and I have Never strayed. Husband swears he hasn't been with anyone else. I don't know what to belive. If I haven't been with any one but him in 9 years, and he hasn't cheated, Where in the world would I have gotten it? Please help!!! I am ready to leave my husband because I do not believe him. You can not get this from a toliet seat. Only sexual contact. Does anybody have any information????

Answer:
Before you leave your husband, first of all I suggest he get tested too. And if he is having no visible symptoms, ie) sores in his genital area or sores in his mouth (he can transmit herpes via oral sex on you if he has a sore, no matter how minute, to your genital area or anywhere his mouth comes in contact with) He may have had it for years (I myself have had 10 yrs of dormant no outbreaks). You may have had it for years and not known. I am just learning about this disease now, alot more than I did 10 yrs ago, because I am newly involved with a wonderful man that wants to be educated about this disease, to be informed before he throws it all away with us. Trust me when I tell you from research (there are tons of sites on the internet for herpes) I have learned herpes can lay dormant for years and years, and a person may never know. So before you leave your husband, and assume he was unfaithful, I suggest you both get informed about this disease. It's a very liveable condition and I have read and do believe that couples can still live happy lives together with this. It doesn't have to be the end of anything. HERPES IS NOT A DEATH SENTENCE. First have him tested. If no visible signs, he would need a blood test to determine if he has HSV (herpes) 1 or HSV 2 antibodies in his blood. This will determine that he may have had the disease for awhile and it layed dormant. Maybe you have had it for years and not known. many people infected have what they call "silent outbreaks" or "asymptomatic outbreaks" which have no visible signs of sores, or so minute, you dont' know they are there, cuz they dont' effect you. Or perhaps he just didnt' know he had it. Thank God it's not HIV or AIDS. There are options such as counseling. And I do suggest you look into it. Do LOTS & LOTS more research. The both of you. He needs to be supportive and loving and understanding through this time. I will come back with couple sites for yuo. I don't have them on hand. BUT PLEASE EDUCATE AND INFORM YOURSELF AND DO THIS TOGETHER WITH YOUR HUBBY.......GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR RESEARCH

Answer:
PLEASE CHECK OUT THE LAST LINE IN LIST OF SUBJECTS WHICH SAYS "NEW --THE H FILES" GIVES TESTIMONIALS FROM PEOPLE/COUPLES

http://members.aol.com/herpesite/




ALSO LOTS OF GREAT INFO: http://www.genitalherpes.com/