Question:
Back in the fall of 2000 I had sex with someone outside my marriage. It was protected sex with a condom. The condom was taken off and then laid on the cheek of my right buttock. About two weeks after that, I started experiencing an intense burning feeling in my spine, between my wingbones. This continuned for another two weeks or so. Then I started to get some deep pain in my right buttock. It was deep inside like to the bone. That lasted for about another week. Then I was very ill for two days. This was accompanied by the most intense stomach pain I've ever felt in my life. After that a section of my right buttock started to burn very much. The area effected did not show anything out of the ordinary, no sores or blisters, but it felt like I was sitting on a tack. The pain would radiate throughout my entire right cheek. The burning pain has come and gone and usually lasts for 6+ weeks at a time. It hurts so much that I can barely sit down. After my divorce in 2002, I was rubbing my hurting behind and then proceeded to masturbate. Three days later, I started getting strange feelings in my penis and scrotum. The scrotum was getting very itchy and was tingling and painful. It also started to get very tight at times. The foreskin of my penis was getting quick shocking like pains and was shriveling up and shrinking. I went to my GP, a urologist, a pain specialist, a dermatologist and a county STD nurse. All of them said I did not have HSV based upon what I told them and what they observed. The pain specialist said it was spine related. The urologist and dermatologist prescribed cremes. Nothing has worked. They said it was all in my mind. Seven weeks ago, I met the women of my dreams. We have been intimate since meeting. We just married on 10/7/05. We went on our honey moon. Once before having sex, I was scratching my right cheek and felt what i thought was an ingrown hair. A few minutes later, my wife took that same hand and had me :( rub her vulva. This morning she told me she had a very painful pimple on the outside of her vulva. I looked at it and it looks like a huge red acne pimple. It is all by itself. So now I'm thinking Herpes? I'm so angry, sad, hurt and frightened by all this. If I was properly diagnosed, I would not have let anyone who did not have hsv into my life. Now what do I do?

Answer:
I have just told my new wife about my problem with my symptoms and what she is experiencing right now. Looks like a divorce is on the way. For those of you who are experiencing the symptoms that I have experienced and have been told you are ok, DON'T BELIEVE IT! I was told by countless professionals that I was not infected with herpes. They were wrong! And now the person I waited my whole life to meet will be gone tomorrow. No sores or lesions does not mean you aren't infected. It just means that you don't have typical symptoms. I now will have to face that fact that I infected the most important person in my life with herpes. What a wedding gift to the person you love...