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This is my first post, and I don?t want to sound like a jerk, but seriously, get over it

I recommend all you that wont leave your homes, want to commit suicide or are in deep depression and feel so sorry for yourselves because of herpes, to get on the internet and do as much research as you have done on herpes, on burn victims with 25%-90% of their bodies burned off and melted that now look like the swamp thing. Or people who have been in car wrecks and lose their limbs, eye sight, hearing, cancer victims, people who have skin disorders that make them look like the elephant man, how about skin diseases like pemphigus, would you rather have this? http://www.vgrd.org/archive/cases/20...996%20copy.JPG

Anyways, my point is this, I?m pretty sure 99% of us on this board got ourselves into this situation, except that 1% that were raped. Everyone else had sex on their own free will, regardless of the circumstances. WE DID IT TO OURSELVES!! You made the decision to have sex. Most people worse off than you don?t get to make the decision.

My buddies brother had cancer in his leg when he was 16, had to have it removed at the hip, he is now 32 without a leg, he didn?t choose this, would you like herpes or one leg?

I work with a guy whose face looks like a bear chewed him up and spit him out, he was 10 years old when his house caught on fire and burned most of his face off, he is a very nice happy kid who loves life, even though he is disgusting to look at (yes it is disgusting) he did not choose this. Would you like herpes or a melted face?

I was in a class a year or so ago with a girl who was in a car accident when she was 18, everyone had been drinking except her, they were out in the woods parting and it was her only ride into town, Well, they got into a wreck, everyone was fine except her, she will never walk again. She now has to live life without being able to walk ever again, how many people would want to marry her? She was a virgin; she will never experience sex. She did not choose this. Would you like herpes or a wheel chair?

Try to notice next time you go out how many people you see in wheel chairs, missing arms or legs, pretty amazing, and we?re all worried about a disease that no one sees, it?s not even something that is bothersome 95% of the time.

Over 150,000 people die every day. On average, 1.8 people die every second from various causes, and we?re worried about telling someone that we have HERPES before we can have sexual intercourse with them, that?s pretty much what it boils down to.

i'm not 100% sure i have it yet( pretty sure i do though), i'm not getting tested for 2 more months, but i've already accpeted it. Herpes is overrated. too many people in the world have it worse than a case of herpes

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Hey,

Yeah I do understand where you're coming from, but I think the reason why people sound so depressed on here is that they can't talk about it with anyone else. I'm not suicidal just because I know I have H, and I try not to think about it very much to tell you the truth, but I look/post on here since I cannot talk to ANYONE about it. I'm too ashamed/embarrassed to tell my family/friends and am terrified for the future (not necessarily for having H, but the unknown... I dunno how it will be like 5 years from now in terms or relationships and outbreaks). If you knew me in person, I'm the type of person who you would think has everything figured out. Everyone always tells me that I'm so lucky because things come so easily for me. Well... people here know the truth.

Me, I just wear a smile and say everything is fine... and yes, I was raped.

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Well I feel for you, I really do, in your case you didn?t ask for it. I think the way herpes is looked at is pretty messed up, yes it?s sexually transmitted but who cares, if it was called 5742 disease instead of herpes, would people still look at it as ohhh gross ?HERPES? ?? Or ohh gross 5742 disease.

People are ignorant about it that is the only reason why you feel the way you do about yourself, if it was more excepted than you wouldn?t care.

As an example, look at how the gay community has developed over the years, People hated them and were disgusted, even killed them because of it, just now people are accepting it more and more, why is that? Because they are people too no matter what they do behind doors (not saying it?s right or wrong just an example)

Maybe there needs to be a 50 million people herpes march, everyone stand up and stop carrying what other people think, it?s a skin disease that hardly ever shows itself

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WELL MARA.....,
i don't know what you're rambling on about,
sure their are people worse off but there are also people better off and the upset people on this website are here because their sexual freedom has been taken away, their health affected and they have a right to be upset,
this website is for support for this disease not people that are going to be rude about other people's feelings and whether or not they have a right to feel the way they feel,
just because we had sex doesn't mean we wanted, deserved, are o.k. with having herpes,
not everyone feels about herpes the way you do and telling us suffers we can't be upset about it is insensitive,
J

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I completely understand your point. Actually that has been something I have very much tried to do since confronting this disease- think of things to be grateful for the many blessings I have and realize that I have so much and how much more fortunate I am than many people. I am not one who likes so sulk around and feel sorry for myself. However, the first time I ever posted on this site was the day I first realized I probably had H, and I was pretty freaked out. So when people are telling their stories and are obviously upset, I think many are in the same boat of having just received the news and are sorting through many conflicting emotions. I think everyone has a right to deal with things in their own way and their own time. And to second what other people have written, many have nobody else to talk to so there are probably a lot of thoughts coming out on this site that have been bottled up for a while. I have a lot of respect for yo for your stregth and your ability to maintain perspective, just please respect other people's perspectives as well.

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"LIGHTEN UP FRANCIS!!"

Feeling a little small after seeing post from College Chic? About under the ashtray small?

Maybe you should pick up a "HERPES and PROUD OF IT!" T-Shirt and wear it 24/7.

You're dealing with a lot a young people here, who may not be as bullet proof as you appear to be.

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People like myself come on here for support, to try to find ways to cope, understand and to talk about it with others who are trying to deal. Herpes is something that affects us on different levels. If it wasn't such a big deal, then none of us would be on this site, would we?

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Yeah, a site such as this is designed for support, and is more inviting to those who need support, who may not be as strong as they would like. Wether or not your post made sense is irrelivent. The important thing is the way you go about it, the hurtful way you go about it.

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well I honestly didn?t mean to come across like some of you are saying, I don?t want to offend anyone here, if you took it that way sorry, i guess I just cant understand how people could consider suicide, or go into deep depression over this. Finding out you have aids I could understand because it kills you, this is a disease that the media has turned into a dark nasty discussing secret, it?s turned into something you cant tell your best friend, your parents etc the world we live in today is ridiculous.

We have this virus, so we are supposed to feel like discussing trash? Like we are less of humans than others? Anyways, sorry if I offended anyone