Question:
Hi...I really need somebody to talk to

I go to university and am 8 hrs away from home. I was kinda on and off with my last boyfriend as he lives at home and im here at school most of the time. we never used any protection because i was on the pill and he told me he had been checked and was clean. anyways, a couple weeks before i went to school I got really sick and they diagnosed my with a bladder infection, but they werent 100% positive. then right before i left i found out my boyfriend had cheated on me. i was completely heart broken and devastated. about a month ago i started feeling better and started dating someone else. i was in the shower this morning, and saw the smallest little white bump on me. i figured it was nothing, but went to get checked up anyways, also because if i was going to have sex with someone else its only fair u know 100% for sure you are clean.

so i went to a clinic, the doctor looked at me and said, yep looks like herpes and said that my "bladder infection" was the first outbreak. she took a swab and just left me there balling my eyes out...i got home called my ex, had a screaming match with him and it ended by him calling me a liar when i said he was the only person i had been with in the last 3.5 years, him denying he had it and him cussing me out

i really need someone to talk to...i could never say anything to anyone here- rumors spread faster than anything...i basically feel like my life is over- i have only heard horrible things about herpes and dont really see a point of life right now

sorry this is so long..

Answer:
Hi Coco...

I know how you are feeling and what you are going through. I've had herpes for 23 years so please believe me when I tell you that your life is worth living. I had all the same feelings that you do now, but it will subside once you accept the diagnosis and come to terms with it. It takes time and you need to go through all the emotions.

My boyfriend that gave it to me reacted the exact same way that yours did. I was hurt and very angry. Try to see if there is a herpes support group in your area so you can get some help dealing with your possible diagnosis. I bet you'll be surprised how many others at your school have it also.

Hang in there and in the meantime, educate yourself as much as possible regarding herpes. It will help tremendously. Having herpes can make you become a better person and much more health concious. You'll soon realize that it's not the end of the world even though it may feel like it at the moment. Your life will go on and herpes will become secondary to all that is more important. Just take one day at a time. I did and I'm still here after 23 years after finding out.

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Learning more about herpes is the most important thing you can do right now.The more you know about it the better you can take care of yourself.Just remember your not bad or dirty for getting herpes.It happens to quite a few people.

I thought my love/sex life would be over when I first got it but have learned that's not true.It may take me a little more time to find the right man for me,but I feel that's a good thing!

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i contracted hsv from a boyfriend too, and when i told him he completly denied it! thing is, i later found out he was cheating on me every time he went for a race in florida-so there you go thats how i got it. did you find out what type you have? i have been very lucky to have only gotten hsv 1 from him on my bum, and i have never had an outbreak since but i did get very depressed. if you ever need someone to talk to and just vent, im always here..think of me as the pet that you always talk to yet this time i can talk back and say its going to be okay. have you told the man you are dating currently yet?