Question:
I had my 1st outbreak in August. Very sick, flu like, pain & then the sore. Gathered info on internet, but blisters broken and said best to culture in beginning. I waited, hoping it was a spider bite...duh. In October, sick again, pain like I'd just been kicked with a pointy toe boot, new blisters. Off to planned parenthood the same day. (keep this trash private). Sure nuff, Herpes! Culture came back type 2. I called my husband at work and told him I had Herpes. His immediate response was, "so what, you've had Chickenpox, that's how you got it". Well, we all know better than that! I told him he needed to think long and hard about what to say to me. I guess he's still thinking long & hard, he hasn't spoken to me in about 8 weeks now. I would think the normal reaction would be, "really, can I get it?", and any other reaction would be more normal than "you gave it to yourself!" ....I would find it hard to believe that this virus has lain dormant all these years especially since 19 years ago a hospital did it's best to kill me. I received Sepsis & Hepatitis B following surgery, have suffered Epstein Barr & Chronic Fatique since that time and my immune system is practically NIL. I catch every cold and flu that's out there and cannot quite believe Herpes 2 is catching up to me after all these years. Hubby refuses to talk so I'm out here by myself. I've gotten over feeling "filthy" and feel like I can use my mother's toilet now when I visit her. I'm dealing with it I guess. I have NO intention of sleeping with my husband, what's next, AIDS? So here I am, married 23 years, 50 years old, marriage and sex life destroyed. The heck of the note is, I don't look my age, I'm in great shape and I get hit on all the time. I have NO intention of giving this to anyone, so I see myself as celibate by someone else's selfishness. I guess I was dealing, yesterday I was flu like, today the same and now I feel like I've been freshly kicked by that boot again. I just realized today that I was probably going to have an outbreak with the pain and flu symptoms, I can't say it was another blonde moment, just attribute it to being new at this disease. And the lovely part is now I have pain from my buttock down my leg and the skin hurts as well. What a lovely present my husband has given me.. Sure would like support... thanks

Answer:
I had my 1st outbreak in August. Very sick, flu like, pain & then the sore. Gathered info on internet, but blisters broken and said best to culture in beginning. I waited, hoping it was a spider bite...duh. In October, sick again, pain like I'd just been kicked with a pointy toe boot, new blisters. Off to planned parenthood the same day. (keep this trash private). Sure nuff, Herpes! Culture came back type 2. I called my husband at work and told him I had Herpes. His immediate response was, "so what, you've had Chickenpox, that's how you got it". Well, we all know better than that! Yeah... Chicken Pox and Herpes Simplex Virus are two different things.

I told him he needed to think long and hard about what to say to me. I guess he's still thinking long & hard, he hasn't spoken to me in about 8 weeks now. I would think the normal reaction would be, "really, can I get it?", and any other reaction would be more normal than "you gave it to yourself!" ....I would find it hard to believe that this virus has lain dormant all these years especially since 19 years ago a hospital did it's best to kill me. I received Sepsis & Hepatitis B following surgery, have suffered Epstein Barr & Chronic Fatique since that time and my immune system is practically NIL. I catch every cold and flu that's out there and cannot quite believe Herpes 2 is catching up to me after all these years. Well... it's possible that you could have carried all this time. Then again... it's also possible that you could have contracted it recently. Then there is the thought of whether or not you and hubby have a history of cold sores and if you do... perhaps you contracted it via oral sex?

Hubby refuses to talk so I'm out here by myself. I've gotten over feeling "filthy" and feel like I can use my mother's toilet now when I visit her. I'm dealing with it I guess. What makes you think you can't use the toilet?

I have NO intention of sleeping with my husband, what's next, AIDS? So here I am, married 23 years, 50 years old, marriage and sex life destroyed. The heck of the note is, I don't look my age, I'm in great shape and I get hit on all the time. I have NO intention of giving this to anyone, so I see myself as celibate by someone else's selfishness. I guess I was dealing, yesterday I was flu like, today the same and now I feel like I've been freshly kicked by that boot again. Well ~ that's not a very good attitude to have. I hope you realize that you are wrong. Of course, you are in control of your own happiness so I guess if you chose to be miserable for the rest of your life you could succeed at it.

I just realized today that I was probably going to have an outbreak with the pain and flu symptoms, I can't say it was another blonde moment, just attribute it to being new at this disease. And the lovely part is now I have pain from my buttock down my leg and the skin hurts as well. What a lovely present my husband has given me.. Sure would like support... thanks Has your husband been tested?

Angela

Answer:
Using the toilet was a joke.

Hubby stands by his initial statement that I have Herpes from Chickenpox.

Husband refuses to talk AT ALL (8 weeks) so I would think testing would be out of the question.

No oral sex, the last year he has avoided me like the plague (we used to be hot jungle monkeys) and I would have been lucky to get a poke once every 2 to 3 months in this last year. Avoidance might have been an attempt at hiding this.