Question:
Im only young and am still coming to terms with having full blown herpes.... i know alot about it as i have done research.... however..... i have been with my boyfriend for just over a month and have sex the other night.... i didnt tell him about my herpes as i didnt want to scare him away.... but i did make him use protection!... am i bad for not tellin him, am i leading him on.... i will eventually tell him when i feel the time is right and i will always make him use protection no matter what..... but i just need to know if i did the right or wrong thing by not tellin him just yet....

please help!

Thanx
xxxx

Answer:
that would be you did the wrong thing... it is your moral and legal responsiblity to tell all partners of your status.... my guess is he will be more mad that you didn't tell him...

good luck with that...

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You do need to tell him now. And don't assume he will necessarily be angry - my girlfrend didn't tell me until after the first time we did it, and although that was wrong of her, I don't remember feeling terribly angry about it.

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yes, it is bad not to tell someone. I personally think it is shitty...and I did the same thing with my current boyfriend...got caught up in the heat of the moment, did it....but then I felt SO guilty by not being honest. So I told him immediately after and he was more than cool about it.

You should tell this man right away. It is only fair. I have to ask, did the person who gave you herpes, was HE honest with you? because I think most of us here have contracted herpes from someone who lied and was not honest with us, until it was too late.

So, get it together, sit him down, and tell him. He might be a bit angry at first, but if you are calm and cool and lay the facts down before him, he will probably be understanding. Thank goodness too you used a condom.

But do the right thing and tell him.

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yes it is very wrong. The other person in your life deserves to know so they can make the risk factor decision.

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im not realy sure how i got herpes becoz when i met my ex i didnt have it and i dont think that he did coz he swore to me he didnt have anything.... but long story short we both got it... he promised me he didnt cheat on me and that i must have given it to him through oral sex.... he said it was contracted to him by a coldsore... even tho there wasnt a sign of one and i had never had one before in my life... and that i got it off him when we had sex...... so im not really sure what to believe...... anyway i told my current partner and he was ok with everything..... he was abit unsure at first but he was glad that even tho i didnt tell him right away.... i still protected him from it by using protection...... now he couldnt love me more :D

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i wore a condom the first time with my partner that infected me,

he didnt know he had it. i say i know from him ONLY bc its not had time to circulate in my blood but his is full blown.

YES its wrong

why bc im so angry from getting it from someone THAT DID NOT know

as anyone here is!

STAND UP AND BE HONEST

this is someones LIFE your talking about

sorry to seem so huffy. but no its not right to not tell him even w/ condoms. its WRONG. i imagine u know how it feels no when u get an OB and how angry you can be!

well think about him...............

condoms dont prevent everything.

trust me

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yes i know it was wrong not to tell him right from the start but im sure im not the oly one on this site to be scared of rejection..... i have explained everything i possibly can to him and hes still ok with it..... he said that he loves me enough that if he got it then it still wouldnt change how much he loves me...... and yes i was very angry to find out that i had got it too but its life..... i have to learn to liv with it now theres nothing i can do to change it......

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nope your correct on everything, it does suck and its really hard. that conversation is frightening :( i do feel for ya dont think i dont, just sharing my opinion on your initial thing about was it wrong to not say so.

just be careful is all. condoms dont nec prevent it thats whats so scary and suckass about it. i think i posted in a diff thread, have a minor OB right now, and today randomly at lunch look at my finger adn theres a blister on it :( thas how easy! and ive become a soap junkie :(

im sure we all should invest in Dial and Trojan :) hehe gota make ya laugh :)