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hi all thanks for the responces on my earlier thred well the test results are in and positive for H :( I told my partner about 15 mins after I got the news and composed myself. He was like as nieve as I was to this virus before I got my OB, he thought as I did that you had to have open sore to contract it boy was that wrong :shock: . He is going to have test done on friday, all I could do was cry and say I was sorry that if I had know I had this I would never have exposed him. He said dont appologize for all I know it could have been him to give it me.I feal so dirty and confused I would love to know were I got this! I would like to think since it was my first Ob or so I think that it was from him, but I dont know for sure and refuse to be accusitory. Now my next feet is my appointment tommorow for an HIV test I have had them in the past but not for atleast a year and Im so scarred that if I was exposed to this I have been exposed to that, Im litterly dying inside right now I have so many questions, my doc did answere a lot of them but I was to shocked to formulate all of them rite then and there, can someone please help me deal with this, and also tell me I have 5 year old daughter how careful do I need to be around her during an OB and when no OB is present. Thanks in advance for you help guys its really appreciated!!

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I wouldnt freak out about HIV. Granted, the spreading is more possible, but I think thats in an instance where two partners have open sores. I guess I dont know for sure, but honestly its rediculous to go ballistic over that possibility. Ive considered that in my boat, and even though I have to wait a couple months to get a test, Im not going to let it ruin my life banking on what ifs.

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Hi,

I had an HIV test a week and a half ago and I'm going Fri for my post-test counseling & results...I'm pretty sure it's neg but I'm freaking out anyway so I can totally relate! I'm also obviously pos for HSV, type 1 to be exact, if you ever want to email me to chat about this or anything else my email is Chrisishere443@aol.com.
Talk to ya later,
Christina

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I have a 3 year old daughter - I keep our towels seperate, wach my hands after being remotely near the area before I touch her - no showers together (I am super careful... although I know the chance is pretty much nill that I give this to her - I don't think .0000001% is good enough.) But other than that - no worries. If I had oral OBs, I would be careful with kisses and plentiful with hugs... just be smart - she will be safe.

Oh - and I plan to wrap her in plastic when I let her out of the closet at age 30... like that will happen. I plan on teaching her all about all of this and be open about sex - safe, smart sex - I am a realist.

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I am in the exact same situation now. Told my bf about it and he says he has not had an outbreak. I have been with him over 1 year and I have never had an outbreak but I could have had it all along and not know it from what I have read. That is such a hard fact to deal with! One would think such a symptom would be hard to miss! I was just diagnosed this past Monday. Had the swab done 2 weeks prior and has been emotionally draining ever since. Sites like this sure do help and I appreciate knowing that I am not alone in this.

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Hi.

I'm in a similar situation. I've been with only my boyfriend for the past 5 months. I was just diagnosed with GH about a week ago and it's been pretty hard, emotionally. Thankfully the physical part is over. I had a bad outbreak and the doctors let me go through hell before FINALLY prescribing me some medication. Gr.

Anyways, I've gone through what seems to be the usual. Boyfriend accusing me of cheating. Wondering how I got this. Was it him? Have I been carrying it all this time and had no clue?

To me it seems strange that I've been carrying it. My body reacts to EVERYTHING and I do mean everything. If I see the littlest thing I run to the doc. Sometimes I think he thinks I'm a hypocondriac (sp), that's how bad I am.

My bf and I are acting as if he doesn't have it, even though he might. We haven't had sex since. And it's been pretty rough. Not because of the sex, but the fact I'm madly in love and want to spend my life with him. He was weird at first...and I went through a lot of depression. But it's only been a week and already we're doing much better. He's decided to stand by me and we're going to head to support groups together.

I'll tell ya...sites like this help A LOT. I've now learned that a lot of people (1 out of 5) have H. I'd just really like to talk to people who have been living with this for some advice. Particularly if you've been in a relationship w/ a partner who doesn't have it. And how to prevent it.

Does anyone know how accurate blood tests are? My boyfriend doesn't have an OB so we can't do a culture.

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Hey you know from what I hear you may never know where you picked up the nasty little H but Dont beat yourself up. I am only about 3 wks into this and my attitude has changed about it especially when I found out the guy I was seeing was negative, I now know who my herpetrator is now and ya know what doesnt matter who I got this from, I have it and thats all there is to it, It will not change the person you were before the DX in a negative way but it WILL most likely change you for the good, so ya know even if your BF is negative like my guy friend was its ok because even if he's accusitory you know the truth, and life will go on it has to. Keep your child up and IM me if you need a friend to listen.