Question:
Hello..I've had herpes since 91..got it from an ex boyfriend..not a long term relationship..but seen him off and on my sophomore year. He was a star of our opposing schools football team..so I thought it was sooo cool to date a senior.

We start having sex right away and 4 mths later he gave me herpes..or shall I say that is when i had an outbreak.

I hated men after that...BAD. I broke up w/him (never told him why) I just never brought it up and I passed it to alot of male whores that were out there. I just didn't care back than. I felt so disgusting.

After that first TERRIBLE outbreak..I didn't have many after that..maybe just 4 times a year.

I got married in 93 and was w/him for 3 years..never told him either. He seen the 'lil cuts' on his thing and just assumed it was from dry skin and rough sex...so I just let him think that. we later divorced due to other things going on.

I had a son in 96..never told my sons dad either.

In fact I never told anyone ANYONE...until I met my NOW hubby. I met him in 02 and married in 03.

I was finally honest. He didn't talk to me for a day..but came back...and when I had my 1st ob with him...he even had sex with me..even when I told him. I am lucky to have him.

We talk about it openly and complain to each other when we have an ob...
he didn't get his first ob until we were together for 2 1/2 years..


ok..theres my story!:wink:

Answer:
I read your story, and I really hope something like that happen to me. I am 32 and got herpes about one year ago. I didn't tell anybody besides my partner, who told me then he had herpes but never told me. Anyway, I think that in my situation is gonna be harder to find somebody that accept me knowing that i have herpes, it is not easy for me to find a boyfriend and, to keep it for a long term is even harder, now if I tell the person that I date that i have herpes, don't think he will stay. :cry:

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Im so mad right now. Im not judging but I guess thats what my partner was thinking he didn't care and gave it to me. He was having a ob when I got it which I figured out later. But what goes through your head or peoples head at the time. We are innocent in the situation.

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Being hateful and shit...young as hell...cause when I matured .. I stopped having sex at age 20 and didn't have sex again until I met my husband at 27 and I told him before things got intimate.

Being a teen I didn't use wise judgements at all..I really hated men and didn't analyze the situation in the right way.

So having it for 16 years...4 of those I was acting irresponsibly NOT the whole 16. I did mature as most people do...there is alot more to the situation that I've never shared .. the summer of 92 while I was 16 I was also kidnapped and raped by numerous individuals, if you can imagine the hate that was stewing inside of me...this was all only 8 mths after I was diagnosed with HSV2...I was in counsling for up to 10 years.

This isn't an 'excuse' but I hope you can see my err in good judgement.

Answer:
I can only hope the bastard who gave it to me did it unknowingly and not because he felt like he needed to get back at women or anything like that.

Contracting this virus you can never cure because someone didn't feel like they owed it to you to tell you is terrible. I made wise decisions and here I am suffering from this for some strange reason.

Answer:
Thanks for your story. I think the only way people can be sure they are not being with someone who is carrying an std is to have them tested for all including herpes before they have sex.

I think the initial poster is using herself as an example of what to be careful of and what not to do. We are all human, and some bad decisions are worse then others.....but in the end... we all are imperfect.

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Can I get a Amen??

My lying days are over but I'm sure there are even people in this room whos days aren't. People are human and do make bad decisions. I would bet 10 to 10 that there are some people that did not tell every sex partner they had sex with that they had it .. at least I can admit I made a mistake..any others out there???? Thats the question. I know not EVERY one is a lil angel. C'mon..

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Quote from Etrump "I think the only way people can be sure they are not being with someone who is carrying an std is to have them tested for all including herpes before they have sex."

It is very difficult to get tested for Herpes. 80% of the population will test positive for HSV1, but it doesn't test WHERE you have it. Most people have herpes in the mouth. You won't necessarily know if your partner has genital herpes just from a blood test, you will only know if they have an outbreak.

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I think that you are right in saying that not everyone tells every sexual partner that they have. I have never had one person tell me that they have had it and statistics say that 1 in 5 do. How is that possible. I have had my share of sexual partners and not once did they say they had HSV.