Question:
I went to my gynacologist for a yearly papsmear and to see what was up with a yeast infection that I couldn't kick. Turns out I had a yeast infection and herpes. I was so upset because I have been married for 10 years and I have never cheated. I instantly blamed my husband. We fought and I couldn't quit crying! HERPES!! ME!!! I have only had 3 sexual partners including my husband! After I finished blaming him I started my research. It turns out that 5 different doctors now, have told me that it is perfectly normal to have herpes for years, even 10, and not have an outbreak. And, my husband went and had a blood test and it came back negative. Found out that blood tests aren't all that accuarte. You need an sore to be swabbed to be 100% accurate. He has never had a sore like I thought I hadn't.. Now I wonder how many yeast infections might have been outbreaks and I never knew. I have only had like 4 in my entire life but who knows now!
I had a 3 day supply of Valtrex for this recent outbreak and it made my back, neck and scalp line break out with little pimples and bumps!! Other than that I feel normal for the most part...
Has anyone else been diagnosed while married and believes that their partner is NOT cheating? Any support would be great!

Answer:
Hello
I just found out that I have herpes TODAY.. I just posted all about it.. I too am married. Only 2 years but have been together for 5 years. I just dont get it either...... My husband has to get tested, at least that will answer some of my questions.. Im happy to hear that there are cases that it didnt show up for YEARS AND YEARS.... Ive been reading on the internet all day!! And I see it always saying an outbreak comes 2-10 days after being in contact.. Which would not make sense in my case, my husband and I didnt have sex then!
I have only been with 4 people including my husband..... One guy was from 7 or 8 years ago, with no condom and thats where Im thinking I got this...... Or my husband is carrying it and shows no symptoms.. If I had gotten this right after having sex, then I would worry more.. But we havnt done it in a long time so its all out of nowhere!
There are other people out there like yOU!