Question:
I was just told i have herpes .... is my life over .
I feel i have so much love to give.
I live with people should i move out .
Im so upset lost 5 kgs from not eating im really depressed
I also have found that there are very few people with this
disease in my community.......im alone...suicide crosses the mind

Answer:
Your life is not over... No, don't move out of where you are living. I too felt like you do when I got this a year and a half ago. I still feel that way sometimes but in my heart I know suicide is not the answer. In life there are many things that we as people go thru....good, bad, painful, beautiful, sad. But everything that happens to us I believe is for some reason....maybe not so specific as we all got this on purpose but things we will have to change in our lives, the way we think, the way we look at things differently, and everything that changes us as a result of having this now....is for some reasons. To teach us lessons in life, to help us learn inner strength, to value ourselves for more than just our sexual identities...there are reasons. Sometimes I feel like giving up but I know that this life is a gift...we don't know what is to come after we leave this earth, and we have been placed here for some reason. To take one's own life over something like this seems so sad, and not necessary, though I know the feeling because I think many people like us contemplate it at some time or other. Please know that while I do not know you personally, I have no doubt in my mind that you are a beautiful person inside and out, that you have hopes and dreams, and love and life lessons to give to other people, that you will be successful in life, that you will overcome this, you will become stronger and wiser as a result of this....and that having this may feel like it is tearing you down at first....for a while...but that one day you will be at peace with it and it will not rule your life. Please, as hard as it is now....value yourself, love yourself, find inner peace, think of life as a whole and not just as the little parts that seem so impossible sometimes. You are a good person, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.....there are thousands of people like us.....who feel exactly how you do in this moment and please remember that while to your knowledge there are not people with this directly around you....you have people here on this forum to help you. Please don't give up hope....I have felt like you a million times...some days I dont know how I am still alive after all I have felt, thought of, almost did.... please know it will take time....but one day your life will feel like it is yours again. Hang on and know you are in my thoughts.

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Thanks BoxOfRain ,

I have relly needed someone to talk to.
What do i do next cant sleep im a broken man

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BoxOfRain, i really enjoyed your post, and it inspired me. I'm keeping the whole situation positive, but you just reassured me of why i should keep it positive, so thank you.

ToTheMoon, Your life is not over and you do not need to move out, feel like you can't love someone, or be depressed. Herpes is not theend of the world and most of the world has it, most are just not diagnosed. You do not need to worry, herpes causes for uncomfortable ob's but you can live the rest of your life normally. I've learned how much good comes out of herpes. You learn who loves you and who doesn't, i control myself better ie. exercising and eating right on a regular basis, along with engaging in sexual activities only sometimes and it's made my relationship stronger. Overall, think about the good it has done in your life, and think about the bad. The good outweighs the bad. =]

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thanks smh1,

Im feeling better about myself
all of your comments have shinned light
on a dark situation . your support is a god send
Thank you all

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Hi, I'm really new to this site, but not to GH. It's been 18 yrs now. I'm not going to lie to you and tell you that's it's not tough, but you will get through this. Experiences in life that do not kill you make you stronger, and as crazy as it sounds, this too will make you stronger. Keep your head up.