Question:
Me again god im sorry for posting so much right now very angy at my partner, maybe soon to be ex he calledme from a clinic about 30 mins ago and said that he talked to a nurse and they told him if he was only worried that he contracted H from me not to get an atibody test done because it take roughly 3 mos to build up enough antibodies to get a possitive, but the reason im angry is because before I was with him I never had any sx of this and I think it's very irrisponsible of him to only think I gave it to him, this is not something any of us wanted but we have it and now he is putting other people at risk by not getting himself tested when he knows for a fact that we have been intimate and I tested possitive!! I mean you can't be to mad at aperson if they didnt know that they were infected but I think it's just so wrong to know that you have been exposed and choose not to make sure your ok for your self and any other potential people that you could infect. Hey got very upset with me when I told him this and basicly ended the conversation abruptly with soemthing like Ill call you... If he doesnt thats ok when I found out my test results today at about noon I was totally expexting that type of responce anyway, but I can't bear the thought of someone having to go thru what we all do because of someones inabliliy to be responsible :evil: , If anyone has any advise on what if anything I can say to him if I ever talk to him again that would be great

Answer:
Unfortuneately, the medical people are so nonchalant they give false securities to people - I'm sure he didn't say "I want to make sure I'm not a carrier...." Remember how shocked you were to find out. He is too... fear brings out the wrost in people. If you get to talk to him, just tell him you understand his fear and his assumption that only you have it.

But remember: he may be positive now if he is a carrier, but if he's negative, the nurse was right - he needs to wait to be retested. Send him our way for info if he nneds anything.

Good luck.