Question:
hi, after not having sex for a year i had a one night stand which was a pretty bad experience. It was oral unprotected and full sex with a condom. Straight away i started to think maybe i had something an worried for no reason, mainly because i was so ashamed of myself.
But the problem is about 3 weeks later i had some symptoms, this is gonna sound a little neurotic but here goes:

1. I got little tiny bite marks that itched mostly on my legs and arms, ive heard this can be a first sign but i have to take into account at the time a lot of my house mates had head lice and some have pets an i have a suspicion that the couch has fleas lol. A few of my house mates had bite marks too so I'm hoping that accounts for that.

2. i had a really bad fever that lasted about 10ish hours. Another early sign but the problem with this is at first i originally thought it was food poisoning because i ate some dodgey chicken before bed that had not been properly refrigerated. I remember thinking when i was about to eat it maybe i shouldn't eat it but thought 'hey as long as i chomp it down quick!' lol. The fever came when i woke up so probably the chicken but i cant be sure.

3. day after the fever a lot of red spots appeared on my penis looked very rash like. They were not raised and appeared on the head and below the head but not on the main shaft. They did not itch, but i got really paranoid at this point. There was also a lot of redness below the head.

4. i got a sore on my lower lip, it was on the red part an looked like a canker core an disappeared within 24 hours.

I went to a clinic, a nurse inspected my penis and said she didn't think it looked like herpes after i asked. I never had any tests done apart from a urine test as i thought it was too early for any blood tests. The nurse proscribed me some antibiotics in case it was something like chlamydia. Urine test came back negative for chlamydia and for whatever else they test for in urine (i forget),

By now i became very paranoid looking at a lot of herpes sites cause i was still worried. I became obsessed with examining my penis, i cant remember when but i noticed that the head was a lot more bumpy and rough then i remembered it. When i was erect it used to be fairly smooth but now its very rough and uneven an sort of bumpy.
The redness seems to have stayed, with varying degrees. Now and again i would get one red spot or sometimes two under the head and normally around the same place.

2 months later with and still experiencing redness and intermittent red spots i went back, they again reassured me it was probably nothing an gave me some cream to wash with.

after another 4 months of washing with this cream the symptoms were still present, worse on some days then others.

I went back just over 6 months after the one night stand, i have had no sexual contact since. This time a saw a doc who after inspecting said there was nothing to worry about an that things looked normal. On that day a lot of the redness was subdued. I insisted on a herpes test that could tell between HSV1 and HSV2. I also had test for every other std you can get tested for.

All the tests came back negative, HSV1 and HSV2 was negative.

now 3 months later and it still looks fairly red, and i still get red spots now and again, sort of tiny red patches that are not raised. I basically have no confidence in my penis anymore and spend too much time looking at it.

I'm gonna get another blood text in two months. If this comes back negative for both HSV1 and HSV2 should i just move an an except the way my penis looks now and assume that those two tests are concrete proof i don't have herpes.

I feel like all this worrying has eaten away the best part of a year, an maybe i should just be more positive and think about dating again, i just don't want to infect anyone, but at the same time if i have nothing i don't want to live an a limbo state constantly worrying when there's nothing wrong.

Thats to anyone foolhardy enough to read all that :-) and thank god for the people who programmed the spell check into the posting box!

AJ Pennypacker III

Answer:
it sounds like you've covered all of the bases. I find it unlikely that the testing was incorrect at 6 or 9 months after the event in question.