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I am now a divorced single mom. I was married for 3 years, in the relationship for 6. I remember a possible outbreak while I was planning my wedding but nothing before that. I had an outbreak while I was pregnant and the Doctor told me it was a pimple. Which could have been a grave error as I found out... My X-husband came to me and told me that his rash was diagnosed as herpes, two weeks after I served him with divorce papers. 6 months after I asked him for a divorce. He had found out 4-5 weeks earlier, but didn't feel comfortable telling me.

I had recently started a relationship with someone, who I had to tell this news to, before I had a chance to digest it. Of course it wouldn't have been an issue had my X told me immediately. We were tested. I have it, the boyfriend doesn't, yet he stayed with me and has been supportive, and unaffraid of contact. Turned out my sister and her husband have it too. As much as it seems common, it doesn't make me feel better when I have to constantly scrub my hands around my child year old in constant fear of passing it to her somehow.

Now, over a year later, my relationship may be ending and I am so affraid no one else will accept me. We had split up for a short time and I was fixed up with someone, who was "crazy about me" until I told him about the Herpes. He never called again. But I don't feel bad for telling him. I have to be honest at the very least.

I still have no idea how we got it. My x's old girlfriend may have given it to him but he won't admit it, not that it matters. I can't cure it, so why kill myself worrying about how it happened?

Thank you for listening. I just found this site today and it is good to know you're not alone. God Bless.

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Lasmom,
I just happend to read a post of yours and you talked about having a child and how you wash your hands always.........
I too have a child and need to talk to someone who can relate to this constant fear???
Please share with me......

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I posted this on dating & relating as well....

Lasmom,
I happend to read an old post of yours, and your concerns for passing it to your child.......I too have a child and wash my hands like crazy.
I need to talk to someone about this....thanks If you get a member name you can send me a private message, or give me your email address, I'd love to talk with you, anytime.

My daughter got a crazy diaper rash right after I was diagnosed - I freaked and asked the pediatrician if I gave it to her. I've come so far thank God! Now I just wish I knew how to get her to brush her teeth!!!

Parents need parents.....to be better parents.

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By the way me - thanks for posting here - good chance to go down memory lane and realize how much these guys have helped me.

To anyone checking this site out, in a bad place, hang atound a few months. Good friends here. Get yourself to a better place through them (us!).

Gratefully,
Lasmom

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Please help me, iam not sure how to do this stuff.........send privat message asks for password???
Are you there now?

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Hi I'm here - Log in and get yourself a name and password - should be free... you can't send a private message unless you are a member.

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Iam too afraid to, I have my broth in law who is always in this computor............How else can I send you private mail??

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OK. I'll make my email public - I'll shut it off later - so send me something quick - there are people I'd rather not know I'm here as well :wink: Ok, a person.....

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Here I am