Question:
So what do you do when you have it but you newly wed doesnt? What do you do when he doesnt touch you anymore and cant blame him for it? What do you do when he starts spending more and more time out of the house and not with you. No kissing, no touching, no nothing. I cant even remember the last time I saw him hard. I mean we were like rabbits before the night of confession. How do you look in the mirror at yourself knowing that you will have this for the rest of your life? Well, I feel all of that and dont have a clue of where to start.

Help. Support. Something, anything would be nice.

Answer:
Lots of questions. How did you find out you have hsv and how do you know that your husband doesn't have it? Did he have herpes specific blood tests taken?

Is this something you have discussed or is there some avoidance going on because he thinks you cheated? Hsv is something a person can have for years and never have symptoms or an ob. It is also possible to have it and to have test results that are negative. Plus there are two types of hsv and they are both very contagious and easy to spread to others. Most people don't know that a cold sore is herpes and most people get it when they are children and once they are adults they spread it to others through oral sex. Did your husband accompany you to a consult with your dr to discuss how to live with this?

I'm sorry this is happening to you it really sucks. I couldn't deal with that kind of rejection.

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I'm sorry you are in such a painful situation!

I'm wondering about the "night of confession" part?

Do you think he's more upset that you knew, and hadn't told him, or about the herpes itself?

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Unattractive,
I apologize, I just read another post by you, and you stated that you just found out.

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Well I told him that I never cheated and I think he believes me about that. He was tested..I dont know if it was a specific test but the doc told him that he had HSV-1. Its still really hard to talk about it. You know Im still in shock myself. I do feel better after reading some of the things on this site but my home still isnt right. i dont know if I can except him not excepting it. A part of me is glad that he doesnt have it but then there is a part of me that wants him to just say I love you and I dont care..we'll be herpes happy together. Wishful thinking.



Lots of questions. How did you find out you have hsv and how do you know that your husband doesn't have it? Did he have herpes specific blood tests taken?

Is this something you have discussed or is there some avoidance going on because he thinks you cheated? Hsv is something a person can have for years and never have symptoms or an ob. It is also possible to have it and to have test results that are negative. Plus there are two types of hsv and they are both very contagious and easy to spread to others. Most people don't know that a cold sore is herpes and most people get it when they are children and once they are adults they spread it to others through oral sex. Did your husband accompany you to a consult with your dr to discuss how to live with this?

I'm sorry this is happening to you it really sucks. I couldn't deal with that kind of rejection.

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So do you have hsv 1 genitally and he has hsv 1 orally? Does he realize he could be the one who gave it to you through oral sex?

Do you realize that he could have given it to you this way?

here is a helpful link. It explains the similarities and differences of hsv 1 and hsv 2 and how people contract them.



I hope you can work it out. It is important to feel loved and supported.

Best wishes.

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He was told to have HSV-1 and if I remeber right I have HSV-2. I'll have to ask my doctor again to make sure but thanks for the site. IT was real enlighting.