Question:
I think I might have given it to someone. I HONESTLY did not know, nor expect I had it. if it turns out we have it, I'll die. contracting it is one thing, but infecting an innocent person who trusted me, thats a totally different story. I just dont know what to think, Im a robot, i walk around thinking abot nothing else but that, and people at work think i'm on drugs because I'm so unresponsive.
I have potentially ruined a young girls life. Has anyone else done this? if so plz respond, because I really need help dealing with this.

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im like 60% sure i gave it to my s.o

the thread is somwhere in my posting history if you want to read it.

yea, it really does suck knowing or thinking you gave it to someone, especially someone you have feelings for. but you know thats the risk of sleeping with someone that does have herpes. but in good faith, if you really truly had no idea, you cant kill yourself over it. talk it out- be honest, you will work through it, she might not believe you but what can you do you had no idea.

are you sure she didnt have it before you?

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Don't beat yourself up about it. If you didnt know that you had it and you gave it to someone you cant hold oyurself accountable. when two people decide to have sex together they both take the responsibility if one catches something for the other. The person i got herpes from had no clue that he had it. He has never had an outbreak and dosent have a symptom. He is a carrier and didnt realize until he gave it to me. I dont blame him for giving me something he had no clue he had. how can i? its each persons responsibility to get themselves checked by a doctor on a regular basis, but what most people dont know is that doctor's dont check for herpes when a person asks to be tested for std's. So if you do get checked on a regular basis and have never had a symptom of herpes try to forgive yourself. The girl you gave it to must be going through a hard time. So give her your support and try to be there for her if you can. Other then that use this as a learning experience and dont pass it on to unsuspecting partners in the future. good luck and be positive

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yeah, I'm pretty sure that she got it from me, and not vice versa. I'm still not convinced I have it but after we slept together she got sick. Tests came back negative, but, that doesnt mean anything really.
I just feel so helpless. I think i'm in love w/ this girl, and I'm pretty sure this could put a dent in the relationship.
All the same, we're only young, and it could bring us closer, but, who wants a relation ship to be strengthened by this stuff. I'm only 21 years old.

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My first boyfriend gave it to me. He felt really bad about it and sometimes wished he had never met me. He didnt know he had it but he is sure that he was the one to give it to me. He was my first and i was a bit shocked at first but then i didnt really care for it because i really liked him and fell in love. We recently broke up after 5 years. i know it will be harder for me to date freely now but what can you do. Life goes on. Now that you know what you have...its your responsibility to be honest with your partners.

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age makes it difficult but it not that bad. you say that your only 21 years old, well so am i and a lot of other people on this forum. There are even people younger like 15 or 16 years old. It may put a dent in your relationship but try your hardest to hold onto it if you really care about her. try counselling. there is no shame in trying to work out any hurt feelings or anger to fix the relationship :)