Question:
i was in a relationship with this guy, it lasted a long time. 6 years. it was on and off near the end of it.. he was an "ass". he cheated on me.. lied to me. and made me put all the effort in. he didnt work. all my money went into our evenings out. i let it all happen. suprisingly enough he is not the one who gave me this gift. i broke up with the "ass" and allowed a co-worker of mine to hook me up with a friend of his. this co-worker of mine, didnt like the stories i told him of my ex and thought i deserved better. he thought his friend was the better choice. so i got intouch with this guy and we got along swimingly;). we had been seeing each other for 3 months when i had my first outbreak:confused:. strange thing was that i didnt understand how this could have happened and didnt know where it was coming from since i hadnt even slept wth the new guy. but we had done "other things".. i couldnt believe it. it was the worst outbreak in the history of outbreaks i assure you even the doctor was shocked at it. i couldnt walk, work, sleep, pee, move.. funny thing is i still am not certian where it came from, could it have been from the "ass" or "the new guy"?.. i dont know. but im no longer with the new guy and since telling the ass he wont speak to me. i can assure you all that i was never the slut, never the party girl that deserves what she gets. ive always been a good person, so to say that just because someone has this means they slept with the whole town in crap. this is new to me, and i am very scared. i wouldnt be as scared if i didnt know what most people think of people with HSV... they are just uneducated. that i have learned the hard way. ya it sucks but i have not had 1 outbreak since. thank the good lord. but anyways the point is i have it yes i do. i wouldnt wish this on anyone but i do believe that we can cope and we can all be happy and for those that judge are just people that dont know. that no one deserves "it". life happens and hell, i cant say that i dont feel a little better knowing that paris hilton MIGHT have it too:rolleyes:. lol.

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sorry to hear this, but even sluts dont deserve herpes, no one does even the boys and girls that sleep about... and Paris hilton.

Herpes doesnt discriminate - its likes everyone!!

it cud of been either of em u got it off, but sounds like its the new guy, but no one can be 100% and you said your ex cheated on you, so he cud of got it anytime during that time and only recently passed it onto you, sumtimes HSV can lie dormant for years before a big OB.

anything u need to ask ask away, everyone on ere is in the same boat so we all try and help eachother out!!

take care..

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Well said gutted. This is something I try to drive home to folks constantly...newbies, oldtimers, people with and without herpes.

Nobody and I mean NOBODY deserves this virus. I don't care if they are the biggest whores on the planet, or a vestal virgin. Nobody deserves this shit.


Now, sure, if one is going to indulge in high risk behavior (multiple sex partners, no protection/condoms/etc) then they shouldn't be SHOCKED when they DO contract an STD, as we all know STDS are out there and if you are a high risk player then you are just uppin' the ante so to speak in contracting something. BUT...I am not going to play the moral majority game and pass judgement on those who do and decide who in the hell "deserves" herpes and who doesn't, and I get real tired of these morons who do.

I can't STAND Paris Hilton, I think she represents everything which is reprehensible and negative in our youth culture today....HOWEVER, if she has herpes, I am sorry for her and even SHE doesn't "deserve" to have it.

But it just proves: doesn't matter who you are, what your socio-economical background is, how famous you are, what race you are...NOBODY is exempt from contracting herpes.

Unidentified, it could be either bloke who gave this to you (doing other stuff like oral sex can spread herpes as well) and I would guess it is the new guy. The key thing is to stay strong (you have a good attitude and that will help you out in the future! ) and take care of yourself. Good luck to you!!

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i must correct myself, i think i got carried away there, i didnt mean to say that i think anyone "deserves" herpes. i didnt even mean to say people that sleep around alot deserve it. i guess what i meant by the paris hilton thing was that its just nice to know that there are other people out there in the world who feel just as crappy as we do and they can be strong beautiful women and that this doesnt have to take over our lives because im sure if we all let it it would. paris hilton, sure she is annoying, but she is beautiful she is successful and if she does have it well, she sure doesnt let it stop her. and i wont let it stop me from doing anything. so i correct myself and say that no one deserves this, not even paris. and that we are all beautiful people.. *love*