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I'm not sure if I have hsv2 yet.I get my results back on fri..but I think I've got it and the doc thinks I got it...by lookin at my rash. I never expected I would contract anything like this, I'm so depressed I just wanna go kill myself it seems like my life's pretty much over this one small virus is going to take over and change my life, I have a beautiful fiance but I can never marry her and have kids. someone please kill me. :(

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stop it right now. your life is not over, it may change a bit if you are positive, but you can still live, get married, have children etc. you need to read some of the posts on this site. there are many, many positive success stories.

it is dreadful, i know, to be diagnosed with this, and i never thought i would ever have to deal with either, but here i am as well as everybody else on this site.

get the negative thoughts out of your head, educate yourself on this, tell your fiance.......things will get better.

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it's hard to stop thinking about it,,,,,one mistake and you are screwed.......is there any medicine someone's working on to cure it? I'm already taking lysine, neem, hyssop, olive leaf, golden seal, acyclovir,,,I'm hoping it would die at it's early stages. possible or no?

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Hey sizzling...

Of course you can't stop thinking about it...It's new to you. The diagnosis is devastating at first. As you learn how to manage it you'll feel better.
All the things you said you are taking are good, and will help.

You have someone very special in your life and the two of you can work around hsv...and have a happy & productive life!
Don't let this virus squeeze the joy out of all the good you have in your world.

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The virus is not curable at this point, may not be for a long time, but there are things to suppress it, like Valtrex or acyclovir. IT is good you are taking that, as studies have found that people who are in the midst of their first outbreak and taking a suppressive med, potentially will have fewer outbreaks in the future.

Taking vitamins like C, bcomplex and lysine can also help keep this stuf under control as well.

Trust me, while I understand your fear and frustration, especially just finding out, this crap is NOT worth taking your life over. If you are having suicidal thoughts, then you need to get into some sort of therapy fast.


I can think of a list of reasons why people should or would want to kill themselves (oh yeah, I went there people) but herpes is NOWHERE on that list.


My examples of someone who should kill themself:

1) you are a pedophile. there is no "cure" for this either and the effects are devastating to innocent souls. So all these people should kill themselves.

2) you are a mass murders. Go kill YOURSELF, stop wasting your energy on other people

3) you are a serial killer. While serial killers are morbidly facinating just in a psychological context....they are still predators of humans and should just do society a favor and kill themselves.

4) anybody who kills in the name of "GOD" (whatever and whoever their god may be.) This is an extremely doomed and dependent person and should just kill themselves, in the name of their god, rather than anybody else.

5) Rapist. These people like to inflict violence upon another human being and take what is not theirs' therefore, they should kill themselves.


Now, having given you a brief look at people who SHOULD kill themselves, makes it seem a tad silly to put yourself up next to those vile types of people I listed above and say "I want to kill myself" doesn't it.

I do this in jest, but I am very serious at the same time.

So many people come to this website and say, "I WANT TO DIE"....initially, then after they do some reseach, get over the initial shock, they feel pretty silly about wanting to off themselves due to stupid old herpes.

I ain't gonna lie to you friend, herpes is rough. It sucks. I hate it. I wish it was gone from the earth. But it isn't. So it is up to US to try and take the higher road and not let this shit define us and control our lives.

Good luck to you and I hope you are feeling better soon.

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Ouch that was an amazing post, it really put having herpes into perspective.

Having herpes is as bad as you allow it to be,if you dont keep it in perspective it can take over your life.

You are still the person you were before being diagnosed, with a lovely life in front of you.

Time is a great healer,everything is scary at first,the more you find out about having this, the less daunting it will be.

Hope you feel better soon
Take Care

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excellent post OUCH

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Just out of curiousity. How oculd you have contracted it and have a fiance that doesnt have it. If you cheated on her, you probably don't deserve her anyway. It's called karma my boy.

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Please do not ever say that. Yes you are scared, yes are afraid. The unknown is just that, educate, educate, educate yourself and you will see it is not easy but it isnot as bad as it could be. You could be dying and your not. but most of use have been there or we are now. YOUR LIFE IS NOT OVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yOU MUST GO TO YOUR FIANCE' AS SOON AS YOU KNOW AND TELL HER. yES IT IS HARD, BUT DO-ABLE. i HAD TO TELL MY HUSBAND AND IT WS THE HARDEST THING i EVER DID IN MY LIFE BUT IT IS THE RIGhT THING TO DO. You woudl be surprised at some reactions, some oare full of love and caring and not hate. Sounds like you are doing alof the right things..

You are special and you are someone good luck