Question:
I have never had a cold sore in my life. I've been seeing a man and when he was here last summer after we were intimate he broke out with cold sores. I did not. He told me that he used to have cold sores when he was a child, but hasn't since then. Now he will not kiss me because he thinks that he will get cold sores from me. Given the timing, I'm not completely rejecting the idea that I played some factor, but how could he have gotten cold sores from me if I've never had them? He keeps looking at very small chapped places on my lips and telling me these are cold sores. I'm fairly certain they are not.

I've been unable to convince him that he will not catch anything from kissing me. It's starting to be frustrating for me, because I really don't want to go the rest of my life without being kissed. So it's getting to be a real problem. If I really don't have a virus, I don't know anything I can do to "treat" it.

If it is possible that I could be a carrier without ever having an outbreak, let me know if there is anything I can do. I would be grateful for any replies.

Answer:
well first off you are not the cause of his coldsores, like you said-He told me that he used to have cold sores when he was a child- so hes had it way longer then just being with you.

yes its possible to be a carrier, and never have any outbreaks or symptoms, its also possible your bf is doing something to him self- like if hes stressed out, started eating something he normaly didnt, if hes been sick recently anything really, could kick start the virus from being dormant.


best thing you can do, is get tested. if its neg, well your not the problem.
if your postitive, most likely you to are passing the virus back and forth, even though theres no real harm in it if you both have it, it can sometimes cause the other to have a outbreak.

and if he just still refuses to kiss you, sorry but thats no one you want to waste your time on.

Answer:
I hear him saying that: 1) he doesn't want to kiss you, 2) he wants to blame you for the problem.

Do you really want to be treated this way? Is this guy worth that kind of guilt and blame? Why in the world would you entertain the idea that it is your fault. He is the one with the problem.

You could have it but you have no legitimate reason to think you do. He on the other hand does have them by his own admission. It is common for people to get ob's of coldsores from the sun (in the summertime) and from stress (vacation).

Answer:
What an imbecile. Sorry hon, but he IS. He had coldsores as a child, but now it is YOUR fault he gets them. He is taking a long ride on the delusional bus if you ask me.

And if you never got them, well, then chances are pretty high you never HAD hsv1. Although, now, thanks to this idiot, you might.

HE might be the one who gives them TO YOU. Tell stupid to put that little light of information in his thinking cap.

Then dump him and find a guy worthy of you and less drama infested.

Answer:
He needs to be made aware of the fact that his coldsores from childhood are TYPE 1 HERPES.....and that it didnt just suddenly leave his body.....the virus has been with him since childhood and he needs to get updated on the facts. You did not cause him to have his coldsores.......the virus reactivates itself from time to time and yes, even years and years later after not having a coldsore. If anything, he has given you type 1 herpes so he should be the one showing compassion for possibly infecting you. He sounds like a real loser, no offense. Its his problem, always has been so maybe he needs to read some literature on the subject and get out of his denial he is obviously in. Also, he should be educated about it because even when he is NOT having a coldsore present, he is still shedding the virus without visible symptoms some of the time( and has been randomly for all these years without one present) and can infect you orally or genitally(if he gives you oral) so be well aware of this important fact many people dont realize.He may have already given it to you. Get tested via herpes type specific blood testing, and until then, Id be the one telling him you wont kiss him or let him give you oral....see how he likes that. He's the real one putting you at risk, not the other way around. Id hate to see you end up with genital herpes from him, and have him be in denial you got it from him. Hopefully he gets educated on this subject and out of denial.