Question:
it all started out like this: virgin, naive girl who dated a cheater behind her back. she gave in to his sexual temptations not knowing what she was doing. little did she know that him going down on her she would have a severe outbreak.

i went to the doctor and they diagnosed me with hsv-1. i know that sounds weird but although i had a genital outbreak it is type 1. i've only had one ob in almost 2 years.

I met this wonderful guy, we were so great together. everything meshed, our personalities and famililes. but when he moved away to go to school he said he couldn't be with me b/c of the herpes. he told me that was the only reason, and I believe him but it is so hard to accept myself again. I am doing okay currently but i am dealing with the issue of finding someone that will accept me with this. I feel so dirty telling someone i have this b/c i didn't even have intercourse getting it! I truly love myself and it is this guys' loss but I am very disturbed that he couldn't accept me after all he told me he loved me. he is a dr. so it might make it harder for him to deal with since he sees it often. I was the first girl he had slept with but i told him before we had sex. maybe he freaked out b/c everything happened so quick. he said he tried to forget about it but he couldn't. I want to get a blood test to just make sure i have it since i haven't had another ob. and I just want to be able to be with this guy...i thought i would never have to look again after all the crap i've already been through............:(

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Hi there

I would like to tell you that not all men run. I am living proof of that. I've had the talk four times and only one split. And now I'm with an incredibly loving person whol I love to bit and who is absolutely smitten by me. Check out the article on my site www.authorsden/christycharles
It's called Not All men run. The Herpes talk - having it again and again and again.

The novel The Eye of The Hurricane would interest you as well as it is 'your 'story. To find a man who'll accept you with this.

What you should hold out for is a man who loves you passionately. A man whom you feel the same way for. Who loves you too much to let herpes come between you (non literally I mean).

He's out there

Christy

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christy

i thought i read a post yesterday that speaks of chatting with your soon to be ex husband; or was that an excerpt from a previous post/story?

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christy

i thought i read a post yesterday that speaks of chatting with your soon to be ex husband; or was that an excerpt from a previous post/story? Getting divorced. Man which I refered to in this post is my new partner. The one who loves me passionately and vici versa. I Maried the man who accepted me unfortunately that was not the man whom I loved.

[ I had found Mr Ok. Mr nice enough. Mr not too petrified of the herpes thing. And I had married him. Well as with all relationships which do not have true love at their heart this one was destined to crumble. No matter how strong one’s conviction to hold the walls up, only true love can do that. And when it all came caving in I knew the cause. And I had learnt another valuable lesson. It doesn’t stop at finding a man who’ll accept you. It stops, it finally stops at finding a man or a woman whom you love passionately and freely and who feels the same about you. ] Except from the article A life with herpes - The ten Year Odyssey.

Sorry if I confused you.

Christy

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Don't despair, Nohope. When I was diagnosed, my dr told me that if a couple stays together long enough, the one with herpes will almost certainly pass it on to the other eventually. Then he smiled and said "but if you really love someone, you're willing to accept that part of them, too." And it's true. I know this from experience because I got it from my partner of 7 years, who I always knew had it. I admit, initially I was upset, but I love him dearly, so I accept it, and now it's just one more thing we share. The point is, real love, the kind that lasts, doesn't include an option to cut and run when a problem arises. You stay, because being with that person is more important than anything, including herpes.
Like you said, it's his loss, and maybe your gain. Would you really want to be with someone so shallow and self-absorbed? Having herpes doesn't define who you are. Instead of proving that you're 'worthy' of him, you should be asking yourself if he's worthy of you. Doesn't sound like it to me.