Question:
Hi,

I was hoping i could get some advice coz i feel so dirty and ashamed rite now.
At the beginnin of the week i was in agony, i was ill and was given pills for a urine infections. i then went back as this did not work and blisters had appeared and am now told ive got herpes.
When i first found out i was a wreck but my sister came over and helped me look at some websites to realise it wasnt so bad. Im just so sacred coz the outbreak was so unbearable this time that i cant stand the thought of that again!!!

Anyway i phoned the man im with and he was totally understanding and told me to not get to down about it, I was honest that there was a big chance he gave it to me but he seemed sure he didnt.He went to the doctor later and then i get a message saying hes really upset and wants to think and he wont talk to me, he said its coz ive given him sonemthing.Now i feel a hundred times worse coz i need his support but he seems to be blaming it on me.Ive had tests for everything else and i dont have anytrhing else

I have a few questions.

- The doctor said that it was my first breakout and it normally comes up within a few days. that would make sence with my current bloke as it was like 3 days but is there any chance i could have got it off my last bloke that i last slept with 2 or 3 months ago.

-my current bloke says that he was in a 6 year relationship before me. that dosnt mean he didnt have it and just didnt know rite?

-Do people really not have symtoms sometimes.. how do they know if there having an outbreak?

-As long as i have sex when im not having an outbreak is it ok to have unprotected sex in the future with someone i trust?

Sorry this is so long. im just so upset rite now. i suffer from clinical depression and this has obviously not helped things, some support would be so much appreciated

Thanksxxxx

Answer:
I am going though a similar situation, my boyfriend send e an email saying he test negative after saying he had an attack but his result were negative and dump me. I have been faithful to him from day one, i just can believe people are so inhuman. I have been tested positive and the doctor told me i got it within the last six months

Answer:
Annie, I don't know any person afflicted with this virus that didn't react the way you did when you found out. I couldn't take enough or long enough showers. I've never felt so dirty in my life. That was 1983. My life is a whole lot better since then. All of your questions are very good ones and can all be answered at this site. The first out break is usually the worst however you can still pass it own to someone when you are not showing signs or symptoms. There is a website called neveranoutbreak.com. This guy believes he has a cure and I believe he may be on to something. Drug companies and the FDA don't won't a cure cause they can't make any money off of it. Check it out, do your homework and decide for yourself. I'm absolutely convinced this works and I've read hundreds of testimomials that agree. Things will get better and your life and your sex life isn't or doesn't have to be over. Good luck and God bless. GTBMC:p:)