Question:
so I go to college for two years being single and do very good for myself, i noticed two little red marks on my penis head a few days/a week later after intercourse with an unsavory girl and thought it might be herpes but it went away in 2-3 days, so i thought nothing of this, now about 6 months later after having intercourse with my girlfriend i noticed reddish rashy looking marks on my penis head again, a day later after shaveing my pubis area i got little popable bumps by the lower shaft where i shaved. I'm like 85% sure im screwed and have it but it seems to be going away now a day after intercourse, Im getting checked tomorrow but was just wondering if anyone had any insight to my problem and would be willing to respond....Anyone please!

Answer:
Hi UnLucky21,
This sounds a lot like herpes to me. Please go and get yourself tested ASAP. If you think you'll be judged, find somewhere like a sexual health clinic or something where they will be used to doing the test. But just get tested. If it's negative, you can still post here and let us all know before you go out and celebrate.

I think the most dangerous thing about herpes is denial. If it is herpes, you could transmit to people you'd probably prefer not to by not managing the infection properly. You can still be contagious without having the rash.

Just to clarify a comment above, herpes and unsavoury people don't necessarily go together. Some of us are lovely people, just someone either didn't know or didn't tell us before we slept with them, the irony being if they had said something, we wouldn't have felt less about them.

Get tested and good luck!

Rhiannon.

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The most important step you can take to know your std status is to see a dr and ask to be tested. Be very specific about your concerns and make sure that you do not leave without having the testing completed. This will either answer your question or give you peace of mind.

I think that it is emotionally damaging to label others. This leads to misconcepts about a persons value and leads to grouping yourself into this category and causing yourself emotional harm in the process.

You chose to have sexual contact with another human being and by virtue of your contact you were communicating that at the time you found them to be an acceptable companion. I would hope that you find yourself to be no more expendable than you find others to be.

If you find that you have hsv I would want you to know that this makes you no less savory than the young lady in question as this virus does not differentiate between people based on moral standing it is truly equal opportunity.

Please get tested and please have your current partner tested as well. It would be truly tragic to pass this to others.

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I apologize for being crude in my message, I was just a little upset myself when I wrote that. To clear up the "unsavoury" comment, I dident call her that because she had the infection, I called her that for my own personal reasons, I meant no disrepect to anyone who has read this thread. Secondly, I plan to go today to get tested with my girlfriend and If I do in fact have the infection I now know how to control it properly and pray to God that my girlfriend does not have it for her sake and for mine.

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