Question:
I have not had sex in about 6 months and never had any inclination that I should be tested for anything, because I've never showed any symptoms of any STD. That's not to say I don't have herpes, because I have researched long enough to know that some are asymptomatic.
Well, I ended up sleeping with my neighbor on two occasions. 3 weeks later he claims I gave him something. He went to the doc and left me a message saying that i had given him herpes, because he had an outbreak after we had sex, at some point. I don't know if he had a blood test or any details.
I don't know if he was sleeping with someone else or not. I'm going to have a blood test done, since I have no symptoms, whatsoever and the last person I had sex with didn't have any either ( I asked him).
He told me this on Friday night and pretty much ruined my whole weekend. Is it possible for someone who already has herpes to have an outbreak from having sex with someone who does not have it? Does it mean he can pinpoint me as the one who gave it to him?

Answer:
A person can have a viral infection and never exhibit symptoms and then suddenly the perfect combination of factors come together and they can have an ob.

It is based on their immune system and how healthy it is. . .

But . . .

It is also possible for someone to have a viral infection never have any symptoms or ob's and to have the virus shed asymptomatically and to infect another person.

My opinion is that you should be tested and try to find out if you have hsv. It is up to him to account for his other partners and to take responsibility for contacting them.

In his defense and your own. The first time we have symptoms or receive a positive test result the first place our minds will go to is "who gave this to me?" and typically we think of the individual we most recently had contact with. This is not necessarily the correct answer but it logically is the first thought.

Another logical factor is that most people do not understand the connection between oral herpes coldsores and oral sex leading to genital infections. The public has not been well informed about the infection rates and the risk. Many people do not take this information into account or ask sexual partners about their history with coldsores. If a person has oral herpes coldsores and engages in kissing and oral sex and then genital sex they are completing a circle that can lead to oral and genital infection.

You did not mention which strand he has been diagnosed with.

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I also got some information from another site, saying that if he was tested positive (i'm gonna assume HV2) after only three weeks, that he had the virus before our encounter, because it takes longer to get an accurate positive reading.

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Antibody formation usually takes a while but it is dependent on the individual immune system.

The healthier you are the faster they are made but yes 3 weeks is very fast and may indicate that he had a latent infection but the fact that he has had a recent ob does not necessarily bode well for you. :(

It sounds like you have a good attitude and you're doing your research.

I wish you all the best and a many negative tests too. :)

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I always love the blame game... I got blamed... until I met his ex-girlfriend from before me.... and she has it too...

get yourself tested... if you have it.... then there is a chance you did give it to him.. but there is a chance that he had it already and never had an outbreak... I have been diagnosed for about 3 years and never had an outbreak... so it is possible that he had it the whole time or you had it the whole time... depending on the last time you had a complete STD workup or when he did you man never know where it came from..

in the end... where it came from... isn't as important as how you are going to deal with your life and telling others... that is where the games really begin...

good luck to you.....

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I wish you the best I guess if I was you I would continue to try to support your boyfriend but only he can come to terms with what he has. Sometimes we blame the ones we care about the most when stuff like that happens.

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But he's not my boyfriend, just a two time encounter! And he's blaming me. I'm calling Monday morning for a blood herpes test. I have been devastated for two days, because he is blaming me for his diagnosis. After researching, I think it's too soon to diagnose his herpes unless contracted before me (it's been three weeks)....Now, I am worried that he gave ME the herpes. I will feel better once I find out the results. What is the BEST test to request, money no factor?