Question:
So I didnt JUST find out.. but its just now that i'm dealing with it. I found out I was Herpes positive when I was pregnant with my son. I got the disease from his father who ended up breaking up with me two weeks after I had my first break out. So not only did I find out I had herpes, I also was left by my boyfriend when I was pregnant with his child. Talk about a royal bummer. I have strayed away from dateing because I dont really want to have the big "talk".... Well I finaly went on a date with a guy, and had the most amazing time. We went camping...sat beside the fire and talked for hours, had an amazing first kiss.. and sparks flew. Now today, I had to tell him about it, just so i know... and he knows.. and if i'm going to get into another relationship he has to know.. So now its the waiting game, as to whether or not he's okay with it. I have a feeling he's going to run screaming... I dont know.. rather I know i didnt approach it right. Can you all please help me out with this situation.. What do i do.. what do i say... :( i'm just really upset.. I guess I just need to talk to someone who understands what i'm going though.. because.... well.. because no one i know does.
thanks a bunch!

Answer:
I found out through a blood test also when i was pregnant with my son. through a blood test. I was also infected by the father. I know what you are going through. I had to go through the entire pregnacy alone. Then the horror of maybe transmitting it to my baby through a vaginal delivery. I know you are hurting badly. All I can ell you is to pray that god help you forgive your childs father. I still deal with that after all who wants me now. I believe that their is a light at the end of the tunnel. First dont go out with anyone expecting them to be a futhure boyfriend. just go out as friends then after you find yourself being drawn to someone and them to you then tell them. Only after they have gotten to know your character and will set it aside from the disease. Its the stamina that gets people not the illness so if he sees the inner you thats is only a minor setback that you could work throught with suppessive and condoms....Myself if i wasnt infected and someone wanted to love me unconditional inspite of a lil skin disease i will be married to them with three kids and happy.. Cheer up:)

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1) All I can ell you is to pray that god help you forgive your childs father.

2) after all who wants me now.

3) First dont go out with anyone expecting them to be a futhure boyfriend. just go out as friends then after you find yourself being drawn to someone and them to you then tell them. Only after they have gotten to know your character and will set it aside from the disease. Its the stamina that gets people not the illness so if he sees the inner you thats is only a minor setback that you could work throught with suppessive and condoms
I believe the first quote Brenda, but not the second one. YOu are too hard on yourself. You don't have any setback unless you believe you do. I don't believe there is anything wrong with you because you carry a virus. As long as you are healthy, you just may forget you ever had it!

I DO trust your third quote, though.

bdjohnson87, did your bf with the sparkling kiss ever get back to you with his response? Without an initial response of "Oh, it's O.K.." would also get me concerned about the relationship. But cheer up. There will be another lover prospect and this other one will have to prove himself before any secret is let out!

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I understand what Brenda is saying, though. I also feel like no one is ever going to want me again after this, and have avoided ever date I've been asked on since May.
I do believe in not busting out the news over dinner rolls on the first date. But what if I go out with a guy lots of times...find myself getting attached (worse..falling in love?)...then tell them...then watch them run away?

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I want to be in a relationship. I got this from trying to find someone to love me and i got the opposite. I didnt want to believe that he would sleep with me if he had slept with someone with a known STD. How could he?