Question:
Hey everyone...this is my first time posting and I'm really not sure what to say but that this past monday i was diagnosed with HSV type 2. =( I was cheated on by my last partner and was also raped last year by a man I barely knew/know.

I am not so much afraid of having it as I am giving it to my current partner. We have only been dating for a little over a month but I have not even thea slightest idea of how to tell him. I don't want him to be scared that he has it now too, since we do not have protected sex since I am on birth control and we have only had sex about 5 times. I was tested quite a bit after my ex cheated on me and I was raped but the blood test I had taken at my last annual came back positive for HSV. I was shocked as i thought I has gotten lucky with what had happened. I pray that I didn't give it to him, but now I can't even imagine what will happen with us. I personally don't think I can ever by sexually active again in fear that I will pass it along to thatt person. This man is so kind and caring and always wants me to talk about what is goin on and makes sure I am doin okay, and I dont know how to tell him. Especially since it takes months for the virus to show in blood tests. Anyone who has any advice on how to break the news and things to plan for please let me know. I'm so beside myself I can't stop thinking about it.

Answer:
I'm sorry to hear about your experience but seeing as you and your current partner have been together for a while it goes to reason that if you had testing last week and the results show hsv that you sit him down and tell him that you had your annuals you had std testing and the results came back positive for hsv.

I had a similar experience and all I could do was tell my partner and at first he was very shocked but over time he realized that he wanted our relationship and we moved forward.

I recommend that you don't read anything into it at this time. You don't have difinitive answers only assumptions. Your parnter needs to go and have testing. It is possible he's had hsv and doesn't know or that you've transmitted it to him or it is even possible he doesn't have it and can continue to be hsv free.

Condoms and antiviral medications can reduce the chances of spreading hsv to a partner and can reduce the frequency of re-infection in partners. Educate yourself and you will feel better about how to proceed. It is not the end of the world it just has a new dynamic that you need to respect.