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I found out two days ago that I had herpes. I was sooo mad at the guy, who even now still acts like he did not give it to me. He won't even get tested....I am like wow, regardless of who had it first, you were intimate with someone who had it so shouldn't you go check it out.... He now is not talking to me, I hope he doesn't infect other people.

The horrible thing about it, is that I cheated on my boyfriend with this guy, and then two weeks later my boyfriend and I got back together and I transferred the virus to him before I even knew I had it (I did not have symptoms at the time). He is being really cool about it, but I feel so guilty. It is like he has to live with my mistake forever.

We are both strong, but we need friends to keep us on the up and up!! Thanks you guys

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im sorry to hear about what happened. its cool that you and your guy are still cool about everything though. for me, it makes it easier. i guess, welcome. everyone here is REALLY nice and will all do their best to answer your questions. don't think that youre stupid for asking even a simple question, i do it all the time :) Im sorry you feel horrible but trust me, its gets better. you said you need friends, ill be one :) keep me posted on whats going on. we all like to keep up with one another lol

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Sucks what happened to you but good to see your not totally torn apart by it. Know that its not the end of the world think of it as a rash that comes and goes thats basicly all it is. Yeah you can spread it but you can spread colds etc too. People usually get 1-3 colds a year on average but herpes is far less so.

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I feel horrible, I normally am a really strong person, but I feel so dirty. Gosh and my break out is like the most disgusting thing ever. Also, I know that my ex boyfriend really feels bad and is not showing it. Sometimes I wish I could just go (I am sure he wishes that too though). I mean it is one thing that I hurt him by cheating on him....I wonder why it could not have just stopped there...

Gosh and the person who gave it to me is completely ignoring me. It is like dont you have any respect at all or something. I go through phases. Sometimes I am really optimistic and strong, and other times I am pissed of at the world and the situation...all the while I have such a pain down there.

I feel as though my ex and I could use this as something to make us stronger, but I do not really see that happening. I do not even want to look at guys now. I would hate to have to say that I have this disease and see their reaction. I really messed up you guys....and it is going to affect my entire life.

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wow.. i have the same story. except i didnt cheat. we were on a break then we got back together. i feel ashamed and terrible also. lets be friends!

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We totally have to be friends.... Man, my boyfriend and I were apart for three months over the summer. prior to the distance, we had only been together for two months, and I was getting over a previous relationship when we first met. During the summer, I began to feel lonely and thought that it was pointless to try to keep something that was not really established yet. I tried to tell him, and myself that it was just sex with someone else (I knew I would be moving away from the new guy so it would not have been anything serious). But the new guy left me with something that I can never get rid of. He didn't even say sorry (he thinks I had it first). I found out I had herpes five days after my ex and I had sex again.....

I feel so terrible and I am physically in so much pain and school starts in two days. I really messed up. Today I told my mom, and she was cool with it...I did not get too big of a lecture.

How are you doing brittle? I am going to try to get some sleep for the night (I am hawaiian time), so I hope to here from you soon. I am here for you...k?? Love ya. G night

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this is crazy. its weird to see how often the same thing happens to people. me and my boyfriend were also on a break and i slept with another guy. he is also denying that he had it. before i had an outbreak me and my boyfriend got back together and slept together. then i got worried and told him to get checked. turns out he was cheating on me too and passed it to his ex girlfriend too.

luckily i found a new guy who knows about the disease and still loves me.
but. we had unprotected sex twice this past weekend. i was so against it when we started. i told him i didnt want him to get hurt. and he said "i love you, and if i do get it, maybe it will make you realize how commited i am to you"
it's still scary...he doesnt believe me when i say that its not easy to have....

im so glad that there is a place on the internet where i can share my story and know that i wont be judged....
thank you all, i hope i can make some long lasting friends here.

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At the beginning I felt like I was the worst person on earth. I mean, I usually have a good sense to objectively look at things, and I knew I did not pass on the virus intentionally. But for some reason I felt like I had done the worse things possible, and that I was the only one.

As bad as this sounds, I do feel better in that I am not the only person who is going through this. It is so awesome to have support from everyone.

Right now I am going through my first outbreak and it will be a week tomorrow. My ex (the guy I gave it too), is only now starting to get symptoms and is very optimistic. I hope to god his is not as bad as mine is and that his goes away very very fast. I think it will since he is a guy, right?

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Wow.. sounds complicated I wish you guys the best.