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hey everyone. This is the first time i have told anyone i have the herp on me. I am 22 yrs old. i got it from my girlfriend. One year ago i got into some legal trouble and went to jail for 2 months. My girlfriend at the time told me she would wait for me. But she met some guy who told her he would take her to new york and spend 5000 dollars cash on her. But as it turned out he like totaly doged her and just kept her in the hotel for a week. She had no money and just wanted to go home the whole time and like a week into the trip she let him eat her out. And she caught hsv2 from him. i learned about this in jail through a friend and was devestated. When i got out i HATED her. I was out for a few days and got with some other girl and did whatever i could to keep her off my mind. I was furious. I am a great lookin guy if i dont say so myself and have never had problems gettin a girl. SO like i talked to her after i was out for a few days and i hit her, cused her the fuck out and basicaly made her feel like a piece of shit. I loved her. She cried and begged me back. She is totally, and absoluletly beautiful. So i strung her on for about a month,will still fucking other girls and making her feel like we could still be together but at the same time partying and got with three other girls. Then i found out she found someone else! and the dude was really good looking and drove a sweet ride. I was like damn, she isnt gonna let this little rash virus ( cause thats all it really is) slow her down. And the thought of her with another dude broke me down. No matter what i did i could not tear myself from her. I LOVE HER. before the incident. i wanted to marry her. So ya. I got back with her. And kinda just pretented like everything was like it was. We got and apt. together and got back together and had bomb ass sex like everyday. I never told any of my friends or family about her secret. I contrated the virus one and a half months ago now, and i question my decision. Was it worhth catching this shit for love. If we break up now, which we might, my love life is fucked. Now i feel like i hate her for giving this to me and i want to leave her, but if i do i will never have anyone else. She has never had another visible outbreak since her first, but im like broke out every week and have it on my balls too so even if i use condoms i cant fully protect sexual parntners. I used to work out 5 times a week and was totally ripped. But since i caugt this i pretty much gave up and have been getting drunk everyday after work, stressing myself to death. I dont know if i can be happy ever again if i stay or if i go. Aint life a bitch! herpes aint shit. its the mental stress and thoughts of i can never get married and be with the girl i love in the future that kills me. If anyone has takin the time to read all this. a little response would be great. I guess you cant stress to death over herpes right. It has no effect on overall generall health and it wont kill you. and anything that doesnt kill you makes you stronger. Damn im stressin. Talk to me someone. lifes a bitch.

Answer:
Andy, despite the fact you wrote:
SO like i talked to her after i was out for a few days and i hit her, cused her the fuck out and basicaly made her feel like a piece of shit. I'll respond anyway..
I used to work out 5 times a week and was totally ripped. But since i caugt this i pretty much gave up and have been getting drunk everyday after work, stressing myself to death. That is why you have so many outbreaks - get back to the gym - get yourself healthy - and for God's sake, if you love someone - heep your hands to yourself - no woman, herpes or not will spend their life with you until you get your shit together - and control yourself. This may be your wake-up call, start today - you already have the right idea about Herpes:
I guess you cant stress to death over herpes right. It has no effect on overall generall health and it wont kill you. and anything that doesnt kill you makes you stronger. herpes aint shit. its the mental stress and thoughts...that kills me. You know more than you think - and Herpes is not your biggest problem.

Sincerely,
Lasmom

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At first I thought your post was a joke. Just by the way you are talking. Or maybe I'm just old....

You made a decision and you can't change that. You did it for love, which is certainly not a bad thing, you followed your heart. You seem to have the right attitude about herpes...it is just a common virus, nothing that will ruin your life.

Start working out again and just live your life one day at a time. If you are a good looking guy, I wouldn't worry too much about meeting someone. I am not really a good looking guy and I met someone.

But........you sound young and maybe a little arrogant. For God's sake, be responsible about this. Research herpes and how it can be spread, learn HOW to live with it. Tell anyone and everyone you plan on being sexual ith that you have it. Don't go passing it on to someone, let them decide if it's worth the risk. You were given the right to make the decision after all.

and finally.....maybe you should get some counseling. You shouldn't be hitting women.

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this is the guy that posted the origional post. This is no joke, and yes i am young. im still feeling the same way. I love the girl that gave me this. She is amazing. I took her back cause i think that we only live once and isnt the love of a liftime ( or so i thought, might still be ) worth a life. If i can ever forgive and forget,.... me and her could be perfect together.

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nah it cant kill you but the stress factor can end up controlling you. If your girl is cheating on you cause of what some other guy drives, then bail. Not worth the headaches and bullshit if shes going to be flaky like that.

As far as breaking out all over, some guy on another forum mentions that he just keeps his boxers on and pulls his junk out thru the fly and wears a rubber. Thatd eliminate a lot of skin to skin contact but doesnt mean you have to get paranoid every time you have sex that the girl is gonna get it.

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herpes aint shit. its the mental stress and thoughts of i can never get married and be with the girl i love in the future that kills me. This is exactly why I've been so stressed out. I mean, how can you find TRUE love? I don't think there are many women out there that would want to run the risk of contracting GH once they know you have it. And if I were to join some GH dating service, that's narrowing the field quite a bit...greatly narrowing the chances that I would find my true companion...but I figure I've gotta' at least give it a shot, and I will, once I get other things in order.

But man...by all means - stop treating women like objects. Even if you're the stud you say you are, you'll never find you true love like that. Maybe sex, but not love.

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ANDY: I don't understand why you can't forgive her. she did tell you she had H instead of lying to you about it and giving it to you anyway. I think most people on this site got H without even having a say in the matter.

I, however, fell in love with a girl with H and ended up contracting it from her. I knew she had it before we ever had sex because she told me. There is no way I can be mad at her because it was my decision and I love her.

It sounds like you might have something special with this girl. Lighten up on her (and yourself) and enjoy the time you have together. Life is short. Don't waste it being miserable.

JUST LIVE......maybe everything happens for a reason. Maybe meeting someone through a H site is something that is supposed to happen to you. I personally know dozens of H free couples that are miserable together and have crappy relationships. Don't over analyze everything, just get out there and live your life. Maybe you meet someone on a H site, maybe you meet a chick at the mall that doesn't care about H. Maybe you use this as an incentive to get out there and start meeting as many woman as possible.

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codecontra,
Sounds like you believe in fate. I don't like the idea of not having control over my life. If this is some higher power's method of making me happy, I want no part of it. There's just too many bad things in this world that happens to too many good people - things which are completely undeserving if it were controlled by something else, for me to believe in fate.