Question:
Hi,

It's been a bit over a year since I was diagnosed with Genital Herpes. But recent events have made me realise that I never really got my head around it. So .. here I am.

Firstly, I want to say that I have just had a loving relationship end, and it had nothing to do with herpes!!! My partner knew from the start about my condition and to his credit.. wasn't fazed in the slightest. So please believe that there ARE loving sensible accepting people in the universe.

So I'm single and I find myself feeling just as unlovable and alone as I did when I was diagnosed. That screams out to me that the problem is with me and how I feel, not with the herpes. So as a starting point, with the purpose of personal resolution and hopefully inner peace, I am here to face, grieve and adjust to having herpes.

I don't really know how or whom I contracted herpes from. The reason I have it is because although I practise safe sex 99% of the time, there have been times where I have not been assertive enough to insistent on condoms. I take full responsibilty for where I am in life and I FORGIVE myself for not sticking up for myself when I needed me.

OK.. seems thats enough for now. I want to come back tommorrow and talk about feelings.. and cry some more.

Thanks for listening,

liv.

Answer:
And we all are listening. We all have been there. There will be so many unanswered questions regarding this portion of your life. The only thing now you can do is accept it, and figure out how to make life better than how it was before. Heck, we have all been where you are. I know for a fact I can relate to what you are saying the lack of strength in requiring the other mate to wear a condom.

You will be supported here, so keep the thoughts coming :)