Question:
I was just wondering if it is at all possible to get genital herpes from someone who did not have an outbreak at the time?
I have just been diagnosed with HSV on Wednesday, from having sex on Saturday. I've told the guy I've been seeing that i most likely have an STD, and i get my results back next week. I'm so scared that i did not get it from him, as he has had no signs of herpes whatsoever. I was thinking maybe he was just asymptomatic, but.. i dont know.
He's being really supportive about it saying "We're going to go through this together". But i'm afraid that if i didnt get it from him he'll just get scared and run away.
I dont even know what to think myself anymore. I've been trying to keep my mind of the fact that, I am going to have this for my entire life. But it looks like its just going to have to be faced.
My doctor has put me on Valtrex (this is my third day taking it) and i can walk a bit better now but sleeping and sitting are still so uncomfortable.. not to mention urinating.
I also started my period! one more thing to add to the list, and i've got to wear a pad because of the swelling down there. But i'm afraid this will slow my healing process. I just dont know what to do if this medicine doesnt kick in fast.
One night just doesnt seem worth it.

Answer:
I was in your shoes last july--waiting for results and thinking maybe I'd gotten type-1 from my boyfriend who has the oral version (I have genital herpes), and hoping this was the case. No such luck--my results came back positive for Type-2 gentital. We were both shocked. But he has stayed with me and been incredibly supportive, as your boyfriend seems to be. my advice is this: let him stay with you, love you and support you even if you feel for a short time that you cannot even love yourself. This will be a hard time for you, no matter what. You may feel you have let him down by getting such a horrible diagnosis. But from his point of view you will still be the same person. Let him love you. You will need all the love you can get, especially your own love for yourself.

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Thankyou.. this is so hard for me right now.. my cousin - my best friend- who says she is always there for me is starting to pick out symptoms on herself, as if i have infected her with herpes.. when in fact -there is nothing wrong with her.
This is so hard because if she's acting like this.. how can i expect anyone who knows to act differently?