Question:
I was just diagnosed today and I can't even explain how I am feeling! I did not have sex for 2 years because of situations like this...and when I finally give in my worst fears came true. I told my partner and he says that he had no idea but I don't know if I should believe him or not ??? CONFUSED... I don't even want a relationship with this person but I feel like I don't have a choice now..I can't believe I did this to myself.:?

Answer:
I'm so very sorry you are having to go through this. YOu have come to the best place to help you deal with all your rollercoaster of emotions.

Most people don't know they have HSV so he could be telling you the honest truth. And most to no doctors test for the Herpes Virus when admitting a STD test. People can have the virus their whole lives and never know.

Granted that doesn't help the situation now. Coming to this wonderful site will help you get your thoughts, your hurts, and answer MANY of your questions. Some here have been newly diagnosed and some have been living their lives with this for years.

You will learn tricks to help ease your OB (outbreaks) and you will hopefully quickly learn that having Herpes is just a virus. Just like someone that has the flu. You just don't kiss or engage in anything when they are contagious.

YOu will hopefully not have any problems, and will have a great spread of time inbetween outbreaks. You will learn all the signs and symptoms you will have before having sores, or lesions.

Just remember life isn't over for you today. many of us are in the dating scene and are doing great, some are married and we are able to still have active wonderful sex lives.

Okay I'm done rambling. I'm here is you ever need to talk. I have gone through many things since my first OB. Marriage, Divorce, Baby, Dating, and I'm always a good listener and will answer any and all questions you have for me.