Question:
Hi everyone

About 3 weeks ago i had a drunken one night stand (The first time id been with a girl in a year as i dont tend to do one night stands!). We didnt have full sex just oral.

6 days later its painful when i urinate. I went to the GUM clinic and the doctor didnt seem too worried basically said he thinks i have an NSU (non-specific urethritis), he gave me 4 tablets and said it would clear up in a few days.

4 days later i still had pain urinating, i also had swollen glands (however - the 2 weeks before that i did have the flu so id had a sore throat anyway round that time)

I went back and the nurse gave me some herpes tablets. valaciclovir. After a couple of days the symptoms got better and i finished the course 2 days ago.

I no longer have any pain urinating though my penis does feel a bit tender still

The thing is, my GUM clinic couldnt test against herpes as i had no sores and they said its almost certain a test for HSV1 would be positive as most people are in contact with a carrier or carry themselves

So, do i assume i have herpes because i responded to them tablets ? Is that the best way to base my diagnosis on ??

To make things worse ive started dating a girl and were ready to take it to the next level however i dont know what i should and shouldnt say ? I feel like i should say something but what if it was an NSU all along ? If i didnt say anything and i passed on herpes then i would be disgsted by myself. Ive already made excuses a couple of times for not stopping at hers etc

Does anyone have any advice as to what i have ? and how to approach it with this girl ?

Im going to phone the GUM clinic again tomorrow as i feel very stressed and anxious with this and see if they can clear things up at all.

Thankyou for your time everyone

Answer:
You tell any prospective partners that you believe you've been exposed to coldsores but you haven't had it confirmed. It would also require you explaining where you think you are infected. I'd say oral and genital but not confirmed in either.

It is most contagious during the first few months while your immune system is working on your antibody response.