Question:
It's just one more thing in a year of misery. I found out my husband of 4 years (we have been together 5) cheated on me. I found this out 3 days after finding out I was pregnant. So, we get through that whole situation and have a beautiful baby girl this summer...Now, I go to the Dr today, for what I thought was a yeast infection and he thinks it is herpes. I'm in shock. Of course, my husband says it wasn't from him because he was tested for all std's 9 months after he cheated. Could it really have laid dormant in me for 5 years? I had a complete set of tests done right after I met my husband because I had been drugged and raped and wanted to make sure I didn't pass anything on to him. Now, I have to wait a week for tests to come back, and then maybe another 7-8 weeks for a second set of tests? My Dr didn't give me anything to treat the outbreak right now..says it clears itself up on it's own? Or is he just not 100% sure it is herpes?

Answer:
What a rough chain of events. I'm sorry to hear you've had to go through this but this forum can be quite helpful and a good source of support.

I am concerned - did your dr confirm your infection by performing a swab culture? Did you get herpes specific bloodwork completed? These would be helpful for several reasons.

1) if culture is positive and bloodwork is negative it indicates a new infection. Bloodwork can be negative for many weeks after initial exposure and retesting is recommended at about 16 weeks post exposure.

2) either testing if positive will tell you the strand of herpes you have acquired.

Note: most std testing does not include herpes simplex virus and Hiv. They are requested separately and usually require a signed consent form.

Your husband should be tested for herpes now too.

I think it is strange that if you had this for 5 years that you never experienced any symptoms during your pregnancy. It could be a new infection. Do either of you have coldsores?