Question:
So I have HPV (cervical kind), and herpes. Honestly I cannot keep it together. This is so hard for me. I dont enjoy anything, I dont want to get out of bed. I dont listen to music. I havent washed, cleaned, I dont have an appetite but I will eat. I havent had a bowel movement in 3 days. Im so lonely Now Ive been trying to get a hold of my boyfriend to tell him it is positive and he wasnt answering or responding to text messages. There is just too much going on. I dont know if i can handle this. I have such bad thoughts, negative ones. I think about doing things that Ive never done before. I hate waking up because its back to reality and I dont think I want to live like this.

Im so sad...

Answer:
Ihopnot, you have to get a grip on yourself, and if you can't do that alone, let someone help you. There must be ONE person you trust enough to share this with... a sister, your mom, a friend... anyone. If not, make an appt with a counselor and go. Or, if you don't feel you can do that, call your dr and tell him how you're feeling. He can prescribe something that might help you over the hump, like anti-depressants. There's no shame in that.

We can only keep moving forward in life. We can't go back and change the things we don't like. Sometimes the closest we can come to moving forward is to just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and going through the motions, until some sense of reality re-emerges from the daze. MAKE yourself get up and take a shower. MAKE yourself get dressed. MAKE yourself put a load of laundry in the washer. I know you don't want to. But when life spins so far out of our control that we feel like we're slipping off the edge, sometimes just literally forcing ourselves to go through the motions of normal activity can keep us grounded just enough to hold on until the spinning stops.

Honey, you're not going to die from this. It's not going to cripple you, or blind you, or incapacitate you in any way. It's a virus. Nothing more. If you had a recurring cold, would you be so upset? Of course not.

Stop worrying about your boyfriend. If he doesn't respond to your calls and texts, he's on his own. You've done your part in trying to communicate with him, and if he's ignoring you, fuck him. Right now, your main concern is YOU, not him. Either he'll come around or he won't. You can't MAKE him do anything, so don't let his childishness make you crazy.

I know you feel alone and isolated, but you have to reach out to someone and let them know you're hurting, or no one will know. Pick up the phone and call someone who you know cares about you. I called my older sister when I was diagnosed, and she was great. She's the only one I've ever told, except my partner, but just having even one person to talk to made it so much easier.

Decide today that tomorrow, when you wake up, you're going to start putting your life back together. You're going to get up, shower, get dressed and get that laundry done. Make a plan, write it down, and stick to it, even if your heart isn't really in it. Keep moving. Don't give yourself time to dwell on your problems. That's a sinkhole you need to steer clear of or it will swallow you up. You don't really want that, and we don't want that for you either. I know you don't know me, but I care about you. We all do here. We're all kind of like extended family, in a way, and you're one of us now. So see? You're not alone after all.:)

Answer:
i couldn't agree more. Picking yourself up again is important, but hard. None of this really has to be hard though, what we have is not the end of the world - no where near, its a rash. You live once. We can't change whats happened - for me this was the most liberating realisation - so its time to get on and enjoy what we have - the priviledge of knowing we still have he rest of our lives ahead of us. What we make of our lives are up to us, the only person to answer to is yourself, so start enoying yourself today - your alive and with all things considered - HEALTHY. Once things fall into perspective the world seems like a great place once again.

Hope this doesnt sound too hippy :)

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Completely agree with both responses, just remember what you're going through now is "normal". Most if not all of us felt this way in the beginning but just remember that it is a phase and that it will pass. Soon, and it could be weeks from now you will start to feel like yourself again but go ahead and allow yourself to cry if you need to get that out. Soon after you'll realize that if herpes is the worst thing you ever have to face regarding your health, you are very lucky.