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So, I got my results-positive. AM going to talk to the doctor tomorrow. I feel so horrible about it all. I feel sick, like I have the flu or something, emotionally drained, and then there is the itch... I hate this! I feel stupid that this happened to me. I am so embarrassed. I cannot sleep. I am constantly thinkng about it! I will write more later, I am just feeling like crap!

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If I had to guess, I would say that 99.9% of all members here felt/feel the same way you are feeling right now. There are so many emotions, not to mention the pain and discomfort of the actual ob, to deal with with a new positive diagnosis. Don't give up. You will find support, information, and friendship here and along with a healthy diet and taking care of yourself, you will feel good soon!

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Thanks. i know I will feel better about it but it just sucks right now.

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I just got diagnosed too. Unfortunately I have been having minor ob for about a yr now that I always thought was razor bumps. They never looked or felt like anything more suspicious until recently that there were more bumps than the usual 1 or 2 and the dr. said it was likely hsv. At this point I am sure it is hsv since it has recurred in generally the same area every time. I've been with my bf for over 2 yrs now and find it so difficult to understand how I could have this now. I don't know if he has had it w/o symptoms and I got it from him or I have had it w/o symptoms from before him and have recently become symptomatic undoubtedly passing it to him. There is no way to tell where it came from or who had it. I know I have been faithful and I think he has been too. Its just so confusing to not know where it came from. I dont know how to tell him.
cM

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I'm there with you. Betrayed and now diseased. I want to cry all the time. I was so careful over the years and it shouldn't have happened to me but it did. My whole life is changing and there is nothing I can do to stop it. But we have to have hope. I have been researching herbal remedies and potential "cures" and I have a glimmer of hope that if I take care of myself right, it won't be that big of a shift. Here's one of the websites I found to be educational:



Hang in there.

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I'm there with you. Betrayed and now diseased. I want to cry all the time. I was so careful over the years and it shouldn't have happened to me but it did. My whole life is changing and there is nothing I can do to stop it. But we have to have hope. I have been researching herbal remedies and potential "cures" and I have a glimmer of hope that if I take care of myself right, it won't be that big of a shift. Here's one of the websites I found to be educational:



Hang in there. oops, wrong website, good one but thats this site. here ya go:

http://altnature.com/gallery/Prunella_Vulgaris.htm

Check out some of the other herbs as well.

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When I ws first diagnosed (well, visually, never managed to get a positive swab reading and the NHS won't give me a blood test) I felt suicidal. I felt like my whole world had caved in! I was 20 when I caught HSV-2. I was also an adult entertainer at the time, so my career was also over too! I was on anti depressants for 6 months afterwards (although I have to point out that I caught it through rape so I also had different emotions there about it.)

But I rebuilt my life and moved on. We all move on. The longer you have it for, the easier it becomes to deal with. The hardest bit is accepting there is no cure, me thinks.

But its interesting, because in the uk, the statistics are- 10% of the sexually active population have HSV-2. Out of them only 25% show symptoms. Only 50% of peopkle with symptoms have a 2nd OB. So therefore, out of the 10% of the population have it, only 1.25% of them will know that they have it, and will go on to have a 2nd OB. Which equates to 0.125% of the UK population.

Which means I am damn unlucky (17 OB to date!)

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bristolgal - do you think the statistical data might be skewed by the fact that they refuse to do testing? perhaps if they do not provide blood test diagnostics they can keep from having to include visual diagnosis in the statistics.

That diagnosis is a killer. It can be very depressing. So many things go through your head when you hear that you've contracted an incurable illness. The hardest part for me was 'accepting in my heart' that the potential existed for the man I loved to leave me because of a virus. He didn't.

Dealing with the virus gets easier over time but much more so if you have a partner who can love and support you. There is nothing comparable to "unconditional acceptance".

Just remember that we are constantly changing and often upgrading our dreams. Sometimes we have our current path diverted towards something better. Don't give up those dreams - change them if you need to but never stop trying to make them a reality.