Question:
I thought it was razor burn. My, how I was wrong.

I'm not really certain who infected who first, but now my partner and I
both have HSV2.

Sex has become non existent. The idea of it terrifies and angers me.
Is oral sex even possible anymore? I have so many questions that I'm not sure where to start.

So I've started acyclovir. Are there any topical medications anyone can reccommend? Any advice would be great. I feel like I'm drowning right now.

Answer:
I know that drowning feeling oh so well. When I was first infected, I thought I would never want to have sex again. And my partner was/is not infected. I didn't want to infect him and I felt less than sexy. But there's some good news. Since you're both infected with HSV 2, there's no fear of re-infecting each other. So if you're shedding the virus, you won't cause an outbreak in your bf and vice versa. And the risk of spreading HSV 2 to the mouth is very low. So if neither you or your bf have HSV 1, oral sex is not very risky as long as there are no symptoms or presymptoms (a tingly, itchy sensation of the skin). A flavored condom or dental dam can be used for oral sex if you're really nervous though. Being on acyclovir is good to shorten duration and occurance of outbreaks but again, you don't have to worry about infecting your partner. When I told my bf I had been diagnosed, we waited several weeks before having sex. We spent a lot of time cuddling, kissing, reading a lot about herpes and just emotionally supporting each other. It actually helped the relationship in a weird way. If you feel comfortable, talk to your partner about how you feel. They are in the same situation you are, regardless of who infected who. The desire for sex usually comes back when someone feels understood and informed.