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Hey,
Took a trip to the doctor today after an extremely painful week. I won't go into detail but basically by the time I got to the doctor I was pretty sure I had the Herp.. my doctor agreed. I have to wait a week for the test, but I'm not holding out. I need support already.. this sucks!

I cried a little today while talking to my mom, and got a little defensive on the phone with the guy that I think gave it to me.. though he is pretty supportive and taking this seriously. We were only casually dating and it's just a strange situation..

ANYway. I wanted to say how happy I am that there is something like this. Fellow Herpsters. Ha, I am trying to use humor to cheer myself up. You know, I think this happened for a reason, to put things into perspective. I consider myself very open and non-judgemental, but I think I always judged those with STDs. That was wrong, and here I am on the other side of the story.

Whew. I will post more I'm sure. It feels good to get it out.

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wow. I definitely know what you mean about judging people with STD's. For the longest time I thought anyone with an STD was a slut and slept around. I got my hereps through rape so its a little different for me but now I understand that these things happen sooooe easily. Something I didn't know until I found this group is 80% of americans have it!!!!


p.s. The humor might offend some people but I think it good for people to joke about it since there is nothing else we can do.

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I got diagnosed a week ago Friday. I found out on the phone, they were suppose to call me, but hadn't gotten around to it yet.
I haven't cried yet, came close a few times. I'm sure I will. This has pretty much dashed my hopes of a future with the man of my dreams, that I've spent two years building a relationship with.
I was convinced, after all the other bad luck I've had for 2 years, my luck had turned around and I wasn't positive. But, it wasn't to be. As Jeramy and I are probably not meant to be. But, I do know if you think positive you attract positive things to yourself, and the same with negative. Keep positive and don't give up hope, above all else. We are all here for you as you are for us.
What's hardest for me is that he is always there for me and has been there for me when no one else was, and I can't even discuss this with him. Thank you for this forum, I'm a person that has to talk things out, and this gives me a place to do that.

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Yeah.. I consider myself an optimistic person, but I'm really up and down about this. One minute I feel fine, like I will deal no matter what and "Hey, I'm still me," and all that.. but the next minute I feel like a leper. I wonder about the guys I like, if anyone will ever want to be with me.. ugh.

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guys will still dig you...just be yourself. i consider myself to be a good looking guy and i will say it's easier if you can find someone who has it as well.it takes the worry and stress out of having to the "talk".that being said most guys will understand some won't but that is ok.keep your head up and try to smile...:)

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So, I am kinda in the same boat as the painfuloptimism. I found the results out yesterday. I was okay, kinda, yesterday. Now, I am pretty down. I wish the guy that I am/was seeing would be more supportive. Since the outbreak he has put the blame on me, but I feel like he gave it to me. We don't know obviously, but, man, I never thought I would be here either. I am sorry too for being so negative at individuals that have suffered from STDs. This just proves how imperfect we are.

I don't even know what to do if this guy doesn't want to see me. I don't want to be rejected because I have this disease. Well, I guess it just helps weed them out.

I am glad this is here. I am glad I am not alone.

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I just found out about 2 weeks ago. I Know how I recieved it and I can't believe it happened to me. So I just have to say like all of us, I'm right here with you, confused, mad, and upset.

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I like the advice ...although in my book most guys are not understanding. I guess they are just to young to look past the whole STD fright. I'm hanging in but I'm sure i'll be on the post as a loner for awhile.

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definitely glad i'm not alone. though in the 'real world' it sure feels like it. they say one in 4 adults in the US has herpes.. why should i be feeling lonely!? ugh.