Question:
I found out about 6 years ago I have hsv1 & 2, lucky me :( I actually had a hvs 2 ob and went to the emergency clinic (over a weekend) then the next week my dr. did blood test and came back for both, but not until 6 months ago did I ever have a cold sore on my month. Other than those two ob's I don't think i 've had any other ob's.

When I found out, I was dating a guy (actaully it was the weekend I was moving in with him). He didn't care and we actually ended up getting married. He's never been tested (refuses to go to the doctor) so who knows if he has it or not but I don't think he's ever had a breakout or anything. And We use condoms every time.

The thing is I miss sex. I miss good hot sex. My husband has never been very sexual (crazy I know). If we do it once a month I feel lucky, we usually go a couple of months. WHich totally sucks. I don't know if it's because he's scared of me or if he just has no libido. Probably the latter since he was kinda like that before we found out. My friends want me to divorce him (for that and some other reasons) and go out and get good sex and be happy (they say I deserve to be satisafied) but I don't want to have to go out into the dating sceen and have to tell someone that I have it. UGGG. I couldn't even imagine having to say it outloud.

So I just live sad and sex starved. Wishing this had never happened to me and longing for the day my life ends. Don't get me wrong I don't want to kill myself, just hoping for a car accident, cancer or brain tumor. I used to be a happy fun loving person. Now I feel like I just go through the motions of life instead of enjoying living it, and I don't know how to get out of this rut. Any adivse?

Answer:
Sounds like the only thing HSV is doing for you is keeping you in a bad relationship. If you didn't have HSV, what would you do? Would you be leaving him, or would you be staying and trying to work it out? You should try your absolute hardest not to let HSV be a deciding factor, because if you do end up divorcing him there WILL be others who will understand, accept, and may even have your virus.

Is it at all possible to introduce something else into your sex life? Maybe you could get him to at least satisfy you every once in a while even if he doesn't want to have sex? Dunno, but if you think the relationship is worth holding on to, sex is a relatively small thing to let hold you back, especially if you haven't exhausted all options of coming to an agreement on that front. IMO anyway.

Best of luck!