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WHAT THE HELL! This is SICK SHIT! I had been with my girlfriend for 2 years and JUST LAST WEEK she told me she had herpes! I went to get tested and sure enough I tested positive. If I had known I would have told that bitch to kick rocks the very first day, I was so proud of never even having a cold sore in my entire life, and what I figured to be a re-occouring yeast infection or some shit turned out to be herpes. I called the cops on her for infecting me against my will and they just laughed! I am so fucking pissed rigth now I could just die! I looked it up online and i guess alot of you people decide to fuck and tell, and imo thats SICK SHIT! How can you be so insensitive!!!! Right on this very fourm a woman was told she was BRAVE for telling her partner AFTER THE FACT! Fuck that, thats a COWARD BITCH! Gee You sure are brave for giving someone an STI against their will! I think this is one of the most fucked up things you can do to someone. I told my now ex girlfriend to get the fuck out of my house, she said I WASNT TAKING HER FEELINGS INTO CONSIDERATION!!!!! WHAT NERVE! I have now consumed 7 fiths of wiskey in 7 days after never having drank in my entire life, I am trying to decide if I should use my hair drier in the shower or if i should jump out my window. Has this happened to anyone else? I would like to speak with someone who can relate to my situation please, I am not very happy right now.

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I'm sorry to hear about your circumstances! I don't know how it happens, I don't get it; how people can knowly have sex and not thell their partner about herpes ...I believe you were implying she knew she had it right? With all the stigmatisms regarding herpes, its not surpirse trying to lessen the shock confusion and the boat load of other emotions that come with learning you are positive. You could sue you ex; unfortunately that can cost alot of money initially and there is no guarentee you will get anything from it. ...Are you sure your girlfriend knew she had it? Two years is a long time. Why did she decide to tell you now I wonder?

Having herpes is not great, it sucks, but it is not the end of the world. I am sorry about your unfortunate new and it sounded as though you were being sarcastic about the hairdryer in the shower but please don't even consider it. I am usually a pesimest but I have to tell you this is not the end of the world but it is going to take some time for you to accept and learn to live with. We have all been there; the first day, the first week, the first month that we found out we have the virus. You are not alone. We all have a different story about how we found out, being diagnoised, who we got it from, etc but one thing is consistant in that it was not good news to anyone... but you know what, life goes on. We live, we fall in love, we go on vacations, read books, make mistakes, follow our dreams... life does go on and it can be great.

My first reaction to anything that happens in life that is not what i have wished for or preffered is anger, but when that melts away I find the true feelings stem from ego and fear, self pity and lack of faith. Take it one day at a time. Utilize this website. It is a TREMENDOUS help in all H related issues. You are not alone!

You are loved! Wishing and praying for you and your future.

meme

its going to be okay!

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First of all you need to stop drinking. That solves nothing. Second of all, you need to have a talk with your girlfriend. If you have been with her for two years, I would hope that you would be a little more sensitive to her feelings. Did she just find out? She may have honestly thought it was a re-occuring yeast infection. She may not have known either. She may be feeling the similar feelings that you have right now if she just found out too.

I suspect I have had it for years and never knew. My boyfriend has been nothing but supportive since I found out. I don't know how I would have gotten through this without him. When I found out I had it, I accused him of giving it to me~~I had never even had a cold sore either. He tested negative, so now I know I am the one. I have been with 3 men in 20 years, not a slut or whore or bitch or whatever else you think of people with herpes. Consider the fact that you may have been the carrier of the virus, without knowing and you gave it to her. That is a very real possibility!

In a relationship, the hard times show what kind of partner your boyfriend or girlfriend will be long-term. Is your plan to drink every time something goes wrong? Why would you call the cops on her for something she may not have even known about? Humilating her like that is uncalled for.

Maybe she did know. Maybe she didn't tell you. If so, you have every right to be pissed. You have every right to break up with her for not being forthcoming. But how you handle it shows what kind of person you are. It is your choice. You can either choose the high road~~talk it out, find out the facts, ask her honestly and calmly to talk about it with you, and then you can educate yourself. Or you can choose the low road. You'll recognize that path, as it is the one you are on right now.

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i got this one of two ways man, either a girl i had sex with that i knew for 7 years gave it to me in which case she new and didnt tell me OR the girl i was dating who was about 9 years older then me gave it to me and failed to also tell me. this is the ONLY way i could have gotten it as i was tested before both of those girls. SOOOO as i said. same thing i wasnt told about it and i know one of them knew. stop drinking. dont hurt yourself just cause someone else can hurt you. someone steals your wallet you dont get back at them by throwing your new one in the trash.

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No reason to freak out and go crazy. We have all gotten this without knowing, with out any control or choice. And those who did get it by choice then shows a lot. It is not like your girl drugged you and took advantage or raped you. Talk about wanting to die!