Question:
I was just diagnosed with HSV 2 last week. :(

A bit of history.....I believe I contracted the virus from a massuer who was in the nude and rubbed her pubic area against mine. No sex was involved. Two days after I had redness on my groin area and a cluster of tiny blisters broke out which lasted about 2 weeks. I've seen a doctor and I was diagnosed with folliculitis and given a course of antibiotics and some cream. There was no pain at all but it does itch a little bit. This was in Dec 2006.

Fast forward to today. After being diagnosed last week via a blood test that indicates I was positive on HSV2 IGg, I realised that was my primary outbreak. After that primary outbreak, I had 3 others and all of them are at the exact same spot with a secondary cluster just within an inch off the initial site. All of the 4 outbreaks so far are painless and goes away within 10 to 14 days.

I was given 400mg ACV pills to be taken daily for a month and then to see the doctor again which will probably give me a 6 months course.

I am not taking this well as I recently married (less than a year!) the most beautiful and lovely girl that I have ever come across. She is all that a man would need. I love her a hell lot and am worried that I will pass this virus to her. I do not want her to suffer what I am going through. The emotional and psychological pain I am going through is terrible.

I have not broken the news to my wife yet. I am afraid. Afraid that she will leave me and even if she doesn't, she will not treat me the same way ever again. This will be an issue that would probably wreak/put a huge dent into our relationship. In addition, being in an Asian society, I doubt this is easily accepted eventhough the statistics says 1 in 5 people in the US have it and 80% of them are probably unaware they are infected.

I dunno, at times I feel like life is not worth it anymore and while driving would just wish a 18 wheeller truck would run over me and kill me off immediately. Stupid I know but that's how down, sad and confused I am right now.

We are now trying for a baby and I am dead worried I am going to pass this virus to her. I dunno how to keep her virus free for the rest of our lives together. Since my diagnosis I've refrain from sexual activities with her. I am assuming she did not contract the virus from me since she has not have any symptoms at all.

I feel dirty, ugly and the thought of hSV2 never leaves my mind. It is affecting my usual jovial feelings and my work as well.

I think I am in depression. Help me.........

Answer:
I kno all bout tha depressed feeling... for me it comes and goes. Im jus completing my primary and every emotion u can feel in a matter of days between anger, devastation and disgust i went thru and am continually going through. There is no guaranteed way to keep ur wife virus free... and i would never want to put someone i loved thru the anguish that i hav experienced thus far and unfortunately this is only the beginning for me, but telling her will allow her to make her own decision. She married you... she vowed for better or for worse and seeing as how this is only ur first yr of marriage if this is the WORST that will happen to you two through out the rest of your lives then i wouldnt complain too much lol. Give her some credit and im not sure how exactly bcuz i havent been in a position to hav to tell it since i found out.. but talk to her and the two of you can decide together how to move forward. I believe in love and I really hope that you believe in the love you share with your wife :) Your life is not over and im saying that as much for you as for myself... The sun will continue to rise and the world continues to turn... This does not change who you are. Keep ya head up

Answer:
That's what I am afraid of.....there would be no 100% way for the rest of my live that I will not infect my wife. All I can do is just to take preventive measures if and when I do have outbreaks BUT as of now, I still cannot find the heart in me to tell her and break her fragile little heart.

I wish to start a family with her and I have to screw it all up by getting this stupid virus. :(

Answer:
Honestly i kno its difficult... i hav a relationship that is/was on the mend at the moment and now i hav to tell him about this... i love him and i would never want to put him in this situation so all i can do is b honest. I completely understand how difficult is it for u to tell her... but thaz really the best thing for you to do, u can shed the virus and b outbreak free.... imagine if she gets it somewhere down the line and you NEVER told her... how devastated would she be then. Give her the opportunity to be there for you thatz wat marriage is supposed to be about... your only a yr in, dont build ur foundation on lies and secrets, its not healthy and the stress from you worrying about could trigger another OB... U can do this, get all the info you can and tell her the truth, ((not sure y a masseur would b rubbing her infected groin on you)) but if it was not a sexual situation that your wife would view as infidelity then i dont think it will the aftermath will be as bad as you think... Take a Deep Breathe .... and do wat a good husband does :: be honest and protect your wife to the best of your ability.