Question:
I have been reading the post for a while now. Thanks for the good info. I think I may be a little crazy right now. I was diagnosed a couple of months ago.

Am I the only one who is a little thankful for this diagnosis? I almost think it was God stepping in to save me from myself.

After I got divorced, many many years ago, I met a man that I was totally hot for....we had amazing sex. I knew he wasn't right for me, but I married him anyways. After being in a sexless 12 year marriage, to find amazing sex was addictive. The sex lasted throughout our marriage, but the marriage ended due to reasons that I knew would happen. As soon as it ended, I began making the same mistakes again-- looking for the hot carnal sex again. Big surprise, I got herpes.

Due to my diagnosis, I think I have a new perspective on my life. I won't risk someone elses heath to fulfill my needs. I have begun focusing on my career~~actually making long term goals and taking steps to make those goals a reality. I am putting myself first. I am so afraid that I will meet someone and feel total rejection when I drop the H-bomb, that I am avoiding any kind of relationship. This is totally new for me. I haven't *been alone* since 1988. I feel like I now have a purpose in life. I feel myself coming around again.

I think that this was a sign to stop seeking approval thru sex and to start improving who I am. I am looking to improve myself so that what I have to offer someone will completely overpower the herpes.

Does anyone else feel this way? Am I crazy? How can you be happy to have herpes????

Answer:
Yes. I totally feel that way. Now that you are expected to tell people it kinda makes you think twice before you just have sex with anyone. In some way this virus helps and will help many people. Though it cannot stop people from being where they want to be or doing what they want to do I believe those people with even half a heart will feel the need to tell their new partner.