Question:
Not wanting to be rude but my gosh. I came here just like others do to try and get some answers or advice and I noticed 10 people have read my post but no replies. I'm feeling very distressed about all this(what I wrote in my first post) and just some support, answers or advice would be nice. Right now I have a band-aid on these sores, or what ever the hell they are. I don't even know if I should cover them up like this. I sware if I get a pos. test result I'm given the husband the FOOT!!!!!!!

Sorry if I came off rude to anyone but I am so angry and scared.

Thanks

Answer:
Hi Crystal,
I just looked at your previous post and I figured the best way to respond to your question is to share my own experience with you. I obviously can't diagnose you but it does sound like it could be herpes. Definitely go to a doctor while you still have the sores because the easiest way to diagnose is by taking a swab. If the sores have healed before you see a doctor you can request a type specific blood test to find out for sure. Now on to my own experience...

About a year ago I had my first outbreak of what I later found out was herpes. At the time I had been with my boyfriend faithfully for 2 years so I didn't even suspect what it was. I told him I had a strange rash and we even went so far as to postulate that he somehow gave me poison ivy because he does landscaping in the summertime. When I got the results back from my gyno, I was shocked and my boyfriend was as well. Of course both of us first started suspecting the other of cheating. I know that I didn't, and I believe him when he says that he didn't. The virus can lie dormant in your system for years before you have an outbreak (usually a stressful situation can bring it out) and some people never have symptoms at all. In fact, my boyfriend had a blood test done and he is positive although he's never had symptoms. We don't know who gave it to who because it was obviously dormant in one or both of us from before our relationship began. And we love each other so we're not trying to point fingers. We're just dealing with it as it comes up. My advice to you is to talk to your husband and both of you should get tested. If you suspect that he really cheated, then by all means give him the FOOT! But remember that it might not be the case... you have to figure out if your trust and believe in your husband and if your love is strong enough you can get through this together. And remember, herpes is not life threatening... as my doctor said (although at the time I didn't believe her), its just a nuisance.

Answer:
Not wanting to be rude but my gosh. I came here just like others do to try and get some answers or advice and I noticed 10 people have read my post but no replies.Sorry if I came off rude to anyone but I am so angry and scared. I'm sorry Crystal - since Faith and Pilot have been busy/away... I have tried to keep up - but it's alot... I've had some serios issues of my own recently, and hard to be positive - and hard to constantly say the same things over and over - because unfortuneately, all we can really do is listen and try to be supportive here. I try to reply to those with no responses... not to let people down.

As for the 10 people who didn't reply - I wish they would take 5 seconds to at least say "me too" - or "I've been there.." I'm sure someone at some point responded to them.....

Good luck with the results - let us (me) know...

Answer:
It USUALLY takes 2 to 10 days to develop symptoms - however as mom said it can lie dormant for several years.

Unless you have reason to think so I would not jump to conclusions about your husband and his faithfulness.

I recomend going to the doctor and they will have a good idea if it is herpes or not. It may be too late to have a culture at this point. However if the bumps come back immediately go to the doctor and get tested. In the meantime have your husband get a bloodtest specific for type 2. If he has been faithful and you have it he will more than likely be positive. UNLESS you have had it and it has been dormant.

Then you have to wait 3-4 months and get a blood test.

Hope this helps,

Matt

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Hi, thanks for the replies. The more the better It makes me feel--Well...somewhat better.

About the husband, caught him in bed with a friend of mine (My best friend slept with him) Nice huh.....Honesty I already feel hes been playing around. It was about a month and a half ago I saw a red bump on the tip of is penis. I really didn't think STD at that time. He said that his pants and ungerware rubbed him raw the day. :roll:

Known husband for 8 years now and married 5. I'm sorry I'm not buying and underware and pants thing. 1.because he NEVER had that problem and 2.the way he became so nervous when I walked in on him while he was checking out the bump. 3. Now I belive I have it. I never slept aroung in my marriage but he must have if now I have herpes.

What am I suppose to do. "Oh thanks honey I have hepes too." A gift that keeps on giving. Don't like to point fingers but damn it can be the only reason.

Thank you for your reply

crystal

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He slept with your friend? dump him now.... unless he is totally regretfull and you honestly believe he won't do it again.

Herpes has nothing to do with that issue.

You need to respect yourself - take care of yourself - he can't do that for you - doesn't seem like it's a priority to him.