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On my 21st birthday, my friends took me to a bar downtown where I live. One of the people working there grew a "crush" on me, and I grew a "crush" on him back. He asked me out a few times, but because a friend of mine also liked him, I told him no. Well. . . the no did not last forever, not even a week. After a friend of mine that use to work with the guy talked to me about the situation, I was convinced that there was no reason that we couldn't see eachother. Well, it was the worst mistake I've ever made, or close (breaking up with my ex was the worst). The guy had genital herpes and not only didn't tell me, but BEFORE we had sex, I asked him if he had been "checked" and he smiled, turned and said, "it's actually about time that I go again." As in, he had been checked. Anyway, we did not use a condom, and not only did he give me herpes, but chlamydia too! Lucky me! Anyway, the chlamydia I could deal with because it is cureable, but I'm so scared that he might have given me something else too! Oh God help me! I'm having faith that I will be okay, but this herpes thing goes away, and no sooner does one go away than another blister begins to form. I think it may be because I'm so stressed out right now, but anyone . . .

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Oh, and did I mention that after we stopped talking, me and the guy, I found out that the fact that he has herpes is fairly well-known, because it's apparently written on the walls at a different bar! :cry: I'm so scared.

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faith, you've got to hang in there girl. I am no expert myself on this (I have had two conflicting test results..who knows what I have) but I do know you have get that chin up. This isn't the end of the world, in fact from reading these posts, it seems as though maybe it is a wake up call to force you to find the RIGHT person, not the first person, who wants to be with you.

Go look in the mirror. You are the ONLY one that will never let you down in the future. Go live life and don't take second best. ever.

ross

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Hi Faith,
I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. unfortunately, there are people out there that like to knowingly infect people :evil: I had a similar experience. But now what you've got to do is take care of yourself. You're right, the stress of this is probably making your OB's worse. It's especially hard when dealing with that kind of betrayal, but you've got to hold your head up hon... this will make you a stronger person, believe me. and Ross is right, it really can help you find the right person. Having herpes really helped me straighten out my priorities, and I started putting myself FIRST. (which is the way it should be!)
Things will get better Faith!

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It is ok! I was diagnosed with herpes in February, I cried almost that whole month, but I prayed and asked for strength. Herpes isn't a death sentence, just a roadblock. It slows you down and sometimes you need that, just don't dwell on it, I know you probably don't want to hear that, but things eventually get better. Just take your medication and pray. See herpes will force you to have a relationship with someone before you have sex with them and that is important anywat. I learned the hard way because I can't even blame my boyfriend from giving it to me because I cheated on him even though i used protection, and he can't blame me because he doesn't know if he gave it to me. But we have moved on from that. Basically what i am saying is blaming someone won't make this go away, neither will filling bad for yourself, just know that you are ok and this does not mean you are a slut, look at all of us hear that are good people. I just want you to keep your head up and heed the advice of those on here, because when I needed it, it helped me alot.