Question:
well let me start off by saying this is the first time i have ever looked on the internet about my touchy subject .. its just i knew there was other people out there that feel the way i do ..i feel so dirty.. i have had herpes for about five years now and the only person who knows is my wife... oh how if i could just turn back time to that one night.. i have only been with five girls total they were always relationships , except the fourth one she was a one night stand , the only one i ever had . And bam i have herpes , that just goes to show my luck i even wore a condom.. I have been with my wife for about four years and married for one and we also have a 10 month old baby girl.. i told my wife that i had herpes before we had sex and at first she took it well and supported me. But latley we have been fighting and she always brings it up she screams at me and calls me "herpy boy" see she dosent have herpes or if she does she dosent have outbreaks .. it just really hurts my feelings and i cant seem to make her understand how much it hurts me . my outbreaks arent that bad but its just the way the make me feel inside , just so dirty and shamefull , just wishing i could go back in time .. i think its coming to an end . i just dont know what to do anymore . im just infected... i just needed to get this off my chest .. thank you ..

Answer:
wow thats really mean. I couldn't imagine being in a relationship with someone who said that to me. I would try and talk to her and let her know how much it hurts you. If she doesn't care maybe you need to reevaluate your marriage because that is some pretty deep stuff.

Answer:
Worndown~

I am sorry to hear of your situation. I can imagine how painful that is to hear that from the one person you have trusted with this very personal information. I do think you should try to communicate with her how much this hurts you. If you find it difficult to talk, maybe you could write to her about it? I just don't think I could stay with someone that repeatedly hurt me like that... you really need to let her know how much that hurts.
I'd also like to congratulate you on having the courage to come to this forum and make your post. I'm glad to hear that you do realize just how many of us there are that understand what you're going thru and what you're feeling. Reading the posts here can really help, there is a lot of supportive people here, and we're pretty much all in the same boat. :wink: it can really help with the acceptance thing, and definately the "feeling dirty" thing. I really encourage you to come here often.
Good luck.